My BOYFRIEND is still “looking…”

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My BOYFRIEND is still “looking…”
Why some men still keep their online dating profile active.

After finding love and a serious relationship some men still keep their online dating profile active. The explanations for this are pretty lame but these men always make the argument that there’s some good reason to keep their profile active. If it's not a passive-aggressive way of telling me we have broken up, what is it? 

 

SO HELP ME UNDERSTAND                                                                                     

You are consciously and deliberately advertising to the entire (FEMALE) population that you are available. Available to speak to women who believe you are unattached, that you look something like your 'thinner version' photograph, and that you are free (AVAILABLE) to engage in romance, possibly with her, at least on line.

Women, if you find yourself in this situation, that your boyfriend is not only still on line but he’s been active "within an hour," I think you might have to adddress that you have a problem. It may not mean that he’s actually cheating on you, meeting other women and having sex with them, but I do think it means he’s not taking your relationship or feelings as seriously as he probably ought to.

The primary reason to keep an online dating profile active is simple: TO MEET NEW WOMEN. I can’t think of another, hard as I try. Can you? REALLY? Maybe he just likes having his ego stroked when women flirt with him? This is still somewhat problematic because he isn't exactly in a position to be getting stroked by other women, now is he?                                                                                                     

WHY DOES HE DO IT?

All the reasons I could think of for a man to keep a profile active while he’s in a relationship. None of these appears condusive to long term happiness--or is it just me?

1. He’s looking to cheat.

2. He likes to flirt with strange women and be flirted with.

3. He may not flirt but likes the idea that women are looking at him. 

4. He doesn’t understand that he’s in a committed relationship.

5. He’s looking to meet or talk to women for some other reason…

 

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