I thought it would be fun to look at some of the emotional, physical and sexual stages of a woman ranging from the most impressionable to the most enlightened and come up with some practical solutions to help empower her. Below are four categories to make it easy to differentiate, but of course there are women who fit into more than one category. Which do you identify with the most?
#1 The Impressionable Woman may be:
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- Newly wed
- High energy
- New mom
- Unable to orgasm
- Sexually experimental
Your body should be in its peak and this is the time to start taking good care of it. I have an analogy that I like to use for our body and that is that this is the car we have been given on this planet so we better service it regularly. Whether you have a sleek sports car, a luxury sedan, compact, or a truck, it’s up to you to keep it running. Have regular check-ups, listen to your body, eat healthy, exercise, and enjoy sex and intimacy with someone who is worthy.
What you need to know:
Accept and love your body. There is no such thing as a "normal" size, shape, look, or style. It’s time to overcome any guilt or shame about feelings of sexual desires, dreams, fantasies, and arousal because these feelings and experiences are healthy, natural, and essential for a healthy and happy woman to thrive.
Learn about your own body inside and out. This includes knowing where your clitoris is, getting familiar with your monthly cycle and how secretions change, but most importantly how you respond to different types of sexual stimulation. In fact this applies to your entire body, so take the time to discover all of your erogenous zones because you are covered in “hot spots” from head to toe and there is no way that you can communicate your personal turn-ons to a lover if you haven’t discovered them for yourself.
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Find out when and what makes you sexually aroused because the greater your awareness of your body, the more you’ll be able to enjoy it and the better it will work. In addition, if your future lover has not developed the skill to stimulate you to orgasm, you can show them how to do so or you can simply achieve an orgasm on your own. You won’t need to rely on or expect your lover to fulfill your sexual needs.
Always take responsibility for your own pleasure and orgasm, do not expect your lover to give it to you because sexual arousal begins between the ears and then it flows between the legs. So ladies, get into a juicy state of mind and you can sex yourself up anytime you want. If you have never experienced an orgasm, you may be suffering from gynecological, hormonal or even neurological disorders, but more commonly you could have a psychological block such as: