5 Ways to Drive Your Man Away


5 Ways to Drive Your Man Away

Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus, or so it seems, when you consider the widely different ways we think, feel, and act. The problem is we too often forge our differences by expecting our partners to think and behave as we do. AskMarsVenus coaches have put together the following list of common things that women do, quite unknowingly, that drive men away.

To have a happier relationship, try to avoid these behaviors as much as possible.


1. Telling him what to do

Are you constantly telling your man how to drive, how to dress, how to behave? Women are good at making improvements, but this highly sensitive area is off-limits. The most important thing to a man  is doing a good job. Question his competence and you'll not only hurt him, but you'll meet a wall of resistance. Instead of telling him what to do, try to ask for his opinion. Men thrive in an environment where they are the experts, so help him be the expert. Instead of saying, "Honey, you should do this..." ask his opinion, "Honey what do you think of this?" This allows him to share his thoughts and you get him involved in a conversation about whatever issue is on your mind. This simple trick is how you can help bring about improvements in your man without telling him what to do!

2. Breaking into his cave

This is a big "no-no" for women. When a man  has a problem, he goes to his cave (becomes quiet and withdrawn) to solve it. This is normal behavior, and during these times, he doesn't want to talk or be disturbed. If you follow him into his cave, or pressuring him to talk, you're likely to encounter a fire-breathing dragon. When a man is forced out of their cave before they are ready it's a bit like waking a sleeping giant. If you give your man the space to work their issues out on their own you are showing them that you trust them. And trusting a man to do their best is one of the greatest gifts a woman can give their partner. So enjoy the time, see a movie, go out with friends, or simply relax...He'll be back soon enough.

3. Mothering and smothering him

Men can be big babies, so they're easy to mother, and of course, some mothering is readily accepted. The problem is when mothering becomes smothering. In effect, you're saying he isn't grown-up. He isn't competent. He can't handle things on his own. That's offensive. Also, mothering makes it difficult for him to see you in a romantic way! Instead trust him to handle his own issues and when he doesn't let him deal with the repercussions. When he needs your help he'll be sure to ask.

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