What Is Holding You Back From Finding Your Dream Woman?


What Is Holding You Back From Finding Your Dream Woman?
Don't base your relationship on chemistry alone.
Women seem to have too many expectations, while men don't.

Your dream woman does exist. While attracting her, your lack of expectations might be getting in the way of finding her.

Current studies show that online daters have pretty specific ideas on what they are looking for in their ideal partner. While working with female clients, I agree that women have a long list of expectations of what they are looking for in a partner. Women want a man who is attractive, sexy, a protector, a provider, romantic, sensitive, funny, a great listener, emotionally available at all times and the list goes on and on. Because I am a Dating Expert for Men, I see the opposite when it comes to men finding their dream woman. They aren't specific enough.

Overall, men’s needs are more simple when it comes to finding partnership. A man wants a happy woman who he is attracted to. What I do find with my male clients is that they mistake compatibility for chemistry alone. They think in their mind, "I met an attractive women and we have chemistry. Score!"

One client of mine shared with me that he is having problems with his woman. At first, they had crazy chemistry, which in turn lead to hot and steamy lovemaking. Turns out, they didn't have anything in common other then the hot and steamy chemistry. As the relationship progressed, the lack of compatibility created a relationship nightmare. Sounds familiar men?

When I take a male client through my 7-Step System, I look at his Relationship Blueprint. Then, I ask him questions about compatibility. 

  • Does he want to get married
  • Does he want kids? 
  • Are their spiritual beliefs compatible? 
  • Do they have common interests? 
  • Do they have the same life goals? 
  • Do they shared the same values?
  • Is there physical and emotional chemistry?

For most of my male clients, dating based on chemistry alone is just a small percentage of the equation. According to, 6 out of 10 couples are unhappy in a relationship. That's a big number. I do believe that necessary tools and education are a must for both men and women while dating, so that healthy and happy relationships can thrive.

While I don't agree with the long list of expectations that women have when it comes to dating, I also don't agree with men basing dating on chemistry alone. What I do know is this: Being clear on what you want and having the right tools will allow anyone, man or woman, to find a happy and sexy relationship!

If you are truly interested in finding your dream woman, then go to my website,, to find out more. Sign up for a complimentary Get Your Special Girl Session here. I look forward to connecting with you soon. 

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