Violence is not limited to the physical realm. Words can be brutal, violent and abusive to a great extent, often without intent.
Projecting violence in words is counterproductive and toxic for the sender as much as for the recipient. MB Rosenberg, the thinker behind non-violent communication, nailed down the 6 communication behaviors we'd better avoid:
- Label: we classify a person in a category;
- Put Downs: we deny the qualities of another, or reality, attributing causes to the environment or the context;
- Reproach, or worse, insult: we assign to others the responsibility for our annoyance, anger, frustration …
- Merit: we condition action to reward or punishment;
- Comparison: we evaluate ourselves against other;
- Demands: we use verbs such as “have to”, “must” … or we use an accusing and threatening “you”.
What these structures have in common is to classify, analyze and evaluate others. Not the best context for a smooth response...
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