How Your Ego Is Ruining Your Love Life


Lose the ego, gain a relationship. How Your Fears Stops You Succeeding with Courting Women!

What if I told you that there is one thing that most men (and a lot of women) do which, more than almost anything else, ruins the chances of most relationships taking off. Not only that — what if I told you that this same one thing has caused you (probably many times) to walk away from women you told yourself were not interested when, in reality, they were into you. (Women to whom you were really attracted.) Do not think so? Keep reading then because I am going to show you how you may be walking away from these women who are interested in you. Bottom line — your ego is ruining it for you. Let me give you the classic example. See if this sounds familiar to you.

Here you are. You are hanging out with a woman you have been out with three or four times. You are getting along great, and you know it. You are having a good time with her. Then, all of a sudden, she gets scared (which always happens). Maybe she all of a sudden stops calling you. Maybe she does not text you back right away. Maybe she hesitates about getting together. What do you do? You let your ego step in to protect you. Your ego goes to work protecting you, and you say to yourself, "Screw it. This isn't going to work out."

What is really going on, is that your ego was just protecting you from becoming even more vulnerable. Then what happens next is that you rationalize the situation to yourself by doing things like submerging yourself in your work (Women do this too with their feelings). Sounding like anyone you know? The truth is that your ego is just trying to protect you the whole time. Not missing that great relationship might just take one more phone call. Call that person out and say to them, "Hey, what's going on? I don't get it. You and I were having a good time, and then you disappeared. What's up?"

By calling someone up, you are going to get a response that will be far different than you ever imagined. Maybe she just needed that extra push. Women like to feel safe. Maybe she did get a little bit scared. When a woman gets scared, what does she want? She wants to be protected by her man. A real man is going to make her feel protected and make her feel safe. That is what women are craving, that feeling of safety and security. Women are nesters. Nature has evolved them that way. Women are looking at you as a potential husband or father, and they want to feel very safe. By you saying, "Screw it," and just walking away at the first little sign of possible rejection, you proved to her that the little doubt that she had about you was 100% correct.

You walked away from a woman who wanted you. Why? It is just because you did not want to become vulnerable, and you had to protect your ego. You wanted to save face. From whom did you need to save face anyway? From your friends? From her friends if she talks to them? If you call her and just ask her what is up, she is going to go to her friends and say, "He called, and he just wants to know what's going on with me. What should I do?" If her friends know that she likes you, all her friends will be encouraging her to call you. So your ego just protected you from nothing.

There are a hundred other similar scenarios like this, and they all have the same moral to the story. You must lose the ego. I have seen so many men blow it with woman because of their "poor little ego." They're what I call the "loser boy." If you really want a true, spectacular relationship, drop the ego. When you go to meet somebody, drop the ego. Stop worrying about what other people say and just live your life to the fullest every day by becoming vulnerable and being masculine!

If you want to eliminate all of your courting fears for good so you never miss a connection with women you desire and learn how to create the deep inner confidence you need to easily and enjoyably meet and attract the women you desire every day, then you need to contact me.

And as a woman reading this, much of what I have said applies to you too. As always, leave a man or woman all the better for knowing you. Average men and women know only the rules. Masculine men and feminine women know they are the exceptions!

For Love, Passion and Intimacy,

Ange Fonce

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