We all go through ups and downs in a long term relationship. I am no exception to this rule.
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You may be thinking thoughts like “I’m not sexy anymore” “He doesn’t think I’m sexy” “He’s not attracted to me anymore”…. You are all up in your head spinning a hundred different stories.
You might even feel a little resentful or hurt for him not attacking you passionately like he used to.
Now, can I ask you a question?
How many times did you say “no” or “stop” in some form or another before he stopped trying?
If that isn’t the case you are probably going to be looking more towards #4.
So I am going to share with you 4 Real Life Reasons Why He Has Stopped Initiating Sex.
#1. He Is Protecting Himself.
Weird, isn’t this one of the reasons you don’t initiate either? He doesn’t want to be turned down anymore – he is protecting his feelings.
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#2. He Is Protecting You.
If you’re like me, you might have been experiencing pain during sex and had to stop him for that reason. He feels like he was hurting you and of course he doesn’t want to hurt you. Therefore, in attempts to protect you he is not pushing the matter. He think you will initiate when you are ready.
#3. He Is Insecure and Unsure.
Behind his tough, confident, manly front (which he probably feels he needs to have) he doesn’t know what to do exactly in order to please you (because you probably haven’t told him exactly how to do that). He might be thinking that he can’t make you feel good, that he doesn’t have the moves or looks anymore, or that you aren’t as attracted to HIM.
The above three reasons are tricky situations that can turn into a vicious cycle – BUT it doesn’t have to. You can have the life (including great sex) you desire, filled with a deep, intimate connection with the man you love.
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If intuitively you don’t feel that the above 3 reasons are what is going on then check out #4 below.
#4. He Is Super Stressed and/or Exhausted.
It isn’t always about you. I know hard to believe sometimes… but really, he could just be really drained from outside circumstances such as work, a health situation, situations with family or friends that are emotionally draining. It has happened to all of us at different times, and he is no exception.
What are your thoughts? Have you experienced a different situation? Can you relate? Comment below to share.