Joey prides himself on getting up at 5am to get in a training run before going to work, while Leah relies on her smartphone to prod her to get in a walk in the evening. Marcy loves to see numbers, so she uses a pedometer and tracks her progress in a log each day. And Ian meets up with a buddy at the gym to get in his workout three days a week. Each of them has figured out a way to stick with their exercise routine and stay motivated.
Motivation is not as simple as Nike’s “Just Do It” slogan for most people. The majority struggles to find and then keep their motivation, and those that do succeed end up with their own motivation style that is unique to their personality and lifestyle. So what does your style say about you, or what about your significant other, and how do those styles impact your relationship?
Just Doing It: You don’t mess around. You simply do what you said you would because you committed. No discussion. No excuses. You rearranged your schedule to fit in this new commitment, and you don’t give yourself a chance to question if you really have time. You make time. You don’t see what the fuss is about, or why your partner can’t do the same. But not everyone can “just do it”, as much as they might try.
Training For It: You have set your sights on participating in a strenuous event, and you know you have to train to be ready for it. You don’t want to let yourself or anyone else down, and if it weren’t for this event that you are committed to, you probably wouldn’t be motivated to exercise at all. You are both scared and excited about the upcoming event, which can make you a bit emotional and stressed. During the year, you are either into training or you aren’t, and both situations impact how much you focus on your relationship.
Being Obsessed: You may not realize how obsessed you are, but those around you can see it. You live, think and breathe fitness and put in long hours in the gym or outdoors. You don’t feel you can ever get fit enough or perhaps be good enough, even though you already are, so you push and do more to the exclusion of other aspects of your life and relationship.
Focusing on Progress: You like to see progress, whether it is seeing yourself handle heavier weights, improve your game or reduce your times. You get frustrated when you plateau and wonder why bother when things don’t improve the way you think they should. You will be determined to solve the problem, even though backing off may be the answer. You want results and can be impatient when things don’t seem to be on track or going as planned.