So you finally landed a date with the person you met on PriceDate (or whatever your dating site of choice is). But now the nerves set in. What are you going to talk about? You want to ensure that the conversation is interesting and stimulating to both of you.
Body language always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body language. Pay attention to the signals you’re sending.
Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how well you’re able to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. The question is HOW do you create an interesting conversation? Focus on being interested, rather than being interesting.
Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering her questions, they will know.
Questions are powerful. When when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it. Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:
- “What do you love to do in your spare time?”
- “What do you particularly enjoy about that?”
- “If you could go on a vacation anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?”
The most important thing is to engage the other person in conversation and don’t spend the entire date talking about yourself. People love to talk about themselves, so if you can get the other person talking, odds are they will have a better dating experience.
By asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past experiences and share them with you. Focusing on these types of topics and avoiding issues like politics and religion is always a good rule of thumb for a first meeting. The important conversations can come once you decide if you even really like the person.
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