Just exactly how do you talk dirty in bed with your partner? Do you just blurt something out or do you tell your partner in advance that you'd like to introduce more talking in the bedroom? What do you say that's within your comfort zone? Or should you be leaving your comfort zone? Is that the point? Hear what our experts have to say about introducing seductive language into the bedroom.
SO WHAT'S SO HOT ABOUT DIRTY TALK?
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When it comes to talking dirty with your partner, there seem to be two camps of people: those who swear by it and those who swear against it. In reality, I think far fewer of us have tried it than would admit and we're all in need of some experimentation to see how it works. So whether you're a novice at dirty talk or consider yourself a pro, we challenge you to read through this entire piece and then conduct a little experiment with your lover to see how talking dirty spices up your sex life.
So why does this work?
Keep in mind that the brain is the biggest sex organ in your body (sorry, fellas) and that the more you can stimulate your partner's brain, the easier it is to reach orgasm. Lots of people stick to just the mechanics of sex and forget that talking, whispering, nibbling and seducing can happen quite passionately before you ever take off your clothes. Consider using just your words and your breath to convey to your partner your excitement. And in the scope of talking dirty, share in words exactly what you want to do. Step by step, inch by inch ...
The other powerful thing about talking dirty is that it's both unpredictable and uncomfortable. You never quite know what your partner is going to say, and the sheer anticipation of that can be unnerving. My suggestion, if this is your first time, is to let your partner lead and start by simply listening. Sit with the experience and allow yourself to hear your partner's desire before giving in to your impulse to interrupt and get involved. Listen for the words, sounds and sensations that arise in you as you hear someone talking to you in this very personalized way. Remember, if it becomes too uncomfortable, you can always stop or steer your partner in a direction that's less embarrassing to you. Often, setting language guidelines can help to keep certain vulgar words out of the story and still allow your partner to seduce you in this very special way. Keep reading...
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