There is an old saying, "Yesterday is the past, tomorrow is the future, today is a gift — that's why it's called the present." I love these old sayings. In so many of them, there is real wisdom that points to how to live your best life.
Truly, each day is a gift — 24 more hours for us to choose how we want to live the rest of our lives. Yet how many of us start this new gift trapped in the past?
Nowhere is this more prevalent than on the romantic front. So many people break off relationships without really cutting emotional ties; or, they stay in relationships when they know it's time to go. Three reasons why people do this include fear, comfort and ego. For example, you might be afraid you won't find someone new. Or, you might be inclined to settle, thinking "It's not working, but at least the relationship is comfortable." Or, your ego might convince you that you can change your significant other. But none of these are good reasons to hang on to something that's over, and here's why:
1. Fear. Someone I know says "There a lid for every pot." I love that saying. Every person who wants a partner can have one who is right for them. You don't have to settle. Fear usually surfaces because we don't know what the future will to bring. You worry the person in front of you may be your best bet.
Coming from an attraction point of view, your best bet is someone who is uniquely right for you. Your job is to know who that is. In other words, get to know yourself. What are your values? What do you enjoy doing? What makes you absolutely climb the walls in frustration or irritation in a relationship? Now for the big one: What would your perfect relationship look like? Determine the answers to these questions; it will shift your attraction point to someone who matches what you are looking for.
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