I went to college with the intent of becoming a Social Worker. However, I was born sensitive and empathetic; the two traits are the same ones that drew me to social work, also repelled me from it.
I was the girl who would cry on the train because someone, in their advanced years, was sitting alone and looked sad. I would pick up that sadness and hold it inside my chest until it leaked out of my eyes. Not a great way to deal with things in social work. My ex-husband, then my boyfriend, made me take a hard look at what it might be like for me to deal with real issues for children and adults in our society. He was right. I was not ready for that.
So, I went on to HR, for a very short time, then advertising. Then, I moved to marketing in law firm. That was the last job I held full-time when I married and began a family.
After my third baby (I stayed home full-time after a few weeks back to work after my second child) I have severe postpartum depression. I could not stop crying or worrying about hurting my baby. I tried numerous medications, various physical programs. Nothing worked.
I met a friend of a friend who was a Coach and had also suffered from postpartum depression. She suggested that I would make a great life coach. Hmmm..
This thought was not completely new to me, but it was good to hear it from someone who actually did life coaching. I looked at various schools and chose to attend CTI to become a Co-Active Coach.
I truly believe in what CTI uses as the model for coaching. We are not broken. We are just right, but we hide who we really are under all of the shoulds, and self doubt and other things we have picked up along the way. I believe that if we all uncovered exactly who we are supposed to be, the human race would run like a perfect machine. We would all connect like a huge puzzle and create something new and amazing.
As I was looking at myself during my 2 years of postpartum (I said it was severe), I also realized that a big part of my issue was my marriage. I was not happily married. We worked on it, but in the end, we were better off going in different directions. And here I am today.
I have always been attracted to helping others, but that was because I needed help myself. When I learned how to help myself, I discovered the best way to help others. Just by listening and reflecting back to them what I see, allows for great transformation. You have all of the answers you need. I just hold up a mirror, so you can see what you had not before.
While I "hold space" for people to discover and transform themselves, I continue to learn and grow. I learn as much, if not more, from my clients than they learn from me. We are all courageous and beautiful bright stars, when we allow it. I want to help people allow it all! Thank you for reading all of this, if you did. I hope you did not fall asleep.