Barbara Becker Holstein - Author, Counselor/Therapist, Life Coach, Marriage and Family Therapist, Psychologist, Speaker/Presenter - Long Branch, NJ
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Barbara Becker Holstein (EdD)


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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF(R) a positive psychology method for increasing happiness. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein.

The magic of the human spirit, with its capacity for survival, growth and joy, has always intrigued Dr. Barbara. As years went by and her practice grew, she longed to explore women's psychological development even further–specifically how to overcome obstacles and bring pleasure into our lives while living a life of meaning and purpose.

She began to document certain steps necessary to rekindle our talents, strengths and lost potential which she teaches and has labeled The Enchanted Self. Her research on women (not in her practice) initially focused around the negative messages that these women had received in childhood from their families and environment. However, she soon discovered that there was a magical capacity within these women to reinvent themselves in adulthood even with childhood experiences of internalized negative messages.

Taking this information back to the treatment room, Dr. Holstein discovered that her clients thrived when she helped them glean from their memories what was positive in their past, rather than focusing on the negative elements. She also discovered that affirming her clients’ talents, coping skills, interests, longings, wishes, and even dormant potential, ultimately led to each client flowering, regardless of real problems and issues. She has helped many, many clients and the public overcome adversity and discover that life is worth living. Her methods help women have more positive emotions while understanding how to cope with daily living, so that it is indeed a good life. Mental health combined with a true understanding of how to retrieve and recreate positive states of being again and again are top goals for Dr. Holstein.

Dr. Holstein is committed to bringing to women everywhere methods to access their Enchanted Selves. These methods shared in the Seven Gateways To Happiness have brought insight and inspiration to countless women. Happiness takes work, but no more work than living a life without hope, repeating negative thoughts and habits that lead to a life that feels less than inspiring.

Dr. Holstein's latest book is a fast paced fiction novel for women, Next Year in Jerusalem: Romance, Mystery & Spiritual Awakening. Enjoy a roller-coaster ride of romance, mystery, intrigue and travel that will entertain while giving the reader lots to think about.

Her book The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy was published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Publishers and is now in its second printing through Brunner-Routledge. This book is Dr. Holstein’s pathfinder book in the field of positive psycholgy in which she outlines treatment techniques, two years before the term positive psychology was even coined!

Her second book Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! has received rave reviews as a wonderful inspirational story book with space to journal. Women love to keep the book on the night table or kitchen counter, for an emotional pick-me-up.

There Comes A Time In Every Woman’s Life for DELIGHT is Dr. Holstein’s third book. This book takes the reader on a spiritual adventure with Dr. Holstein. Reader’s love this book, getting to experience first hand celebrations and adventures that rekindle their own spirit of adventure. In two versions, paperback and a CD-rom version that includes music, art, and Dr. Holstein’s voice, either is sure to be a ‘Delight.’

Her book, The Truth, I’m Ten, I’m Smart and I Know Everything! is another first in positive psychology-perhaps the first positive psychology fiction book for women. Written by an eleven year old girl as a diary, Dr. Barbara has imbedded lots of positive truths that we all need to remember and live by, regardless of our age.

The girl’s edition, a best seller on Amazon: The Truth, (I’m a girl, I’m smart and Iknow everything) debuted February 2008. It has been translated into Chinese and Vietnamese. Edited for girls, with a special introduction, and questions just for kids, the book is a great read for kids and their moms.
A sequel to The Truth is now available: Secrets: You tell me yours and I'll tell you mine...maybe.

Geared for girls also, the girl is growing up and continues to share her feelings, and daily life issues with the reader. Great for discussions, as the girl tackles everything from getting her period, to a serious crush, moving, family fighting, a death in the family, moods, etc.

Dr. Holstein can be reached at 732-571-1200 and Skype at barbara.becker.holstein She is available for speaking engagements, radio, television and press interviews. Find her at, , , , and . Also Youtube at enchantedself, truthforgirls and nextyearinjerusalem.

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Barbara Becker Holstein

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Main Specialty:

Couples/Marital Issues

Divorce/Divorce Prevention

Life Transitions



Time in Practice:

25 years +

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Life Coach

Marriage and Family Therapist



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Willing To Meet in Public Locations like Starbucks (please inquire)

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Licence information:

Expiration 6/30/15
Number #1616 N.J. Psychology License

Articles by Barbara Becker Holstein
Spa Retreat

Where Would You Go for a Romantic Vacation?

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Texting Your Way To Love

Dreams Vs. Reality In Bringing Up Teens

You thought you were raising a straight-A student, but got a punk rock drummer instead. What now?

Think Your Kids Don't Know When You Are Fighting? Think Again.

Parents must be considerate of their children's happiness by solving problems with peace in mind.

Cocktail Lady

How Young Is Too Young For A First Crush?

First crushes may be embarrassing, but they help you learn about love at an early age

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Around Every Corner, Romance & Mystery
The Truth: Diary of a Gutsy Tween
Next Year in Jerusalem!: Around Every Corner, Mystery & Romance in the Holy Land: Part Two
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Next Year in Jerusalem! - Romance, Mystery and Spiritual Awakenings (Part 1)
Feel Good Stories: An Enchanted Self Book
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Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is You!
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Barbara Becker Holstein

All Specialties

Anxiety Issues, Career, Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Depression, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Empowering Women, Family Support, Financial Stress, Health/Wellness, Holistic Coach, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, Life Management, Life Transitions, Parenting, Personality Disorders, Postpartum Depression, Stepfamilies, Stress Management, Wellness