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It's You...It's Really Not Me! [EXPERT]

I am sure you have heard the term “it’s not you it’s me.” Maybe you have used this yourself to let some one down easily. Maybe you had an EX end your relationship with this line. “It’s not you it’s me” can be seen as the largest relationship break-up ...

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Why Tough Love Is Sometimes The Best Route [EXPERT]

Tough Love is… A hard and sometimes sad road we must walk down. It is a process we use when we need to step away from control or stop our desire to help a loved one who has become too dependent on drugs or alcohol. It could also be used for a person who just needs a huge wake up call when they are self ...

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Tips For Fighting Fair [EXPERT]

Fighting can cause severe damage to a relationship. Yet on another hand, if it is done appropriately and honestly, it can open doors to better communication which will lead to a better relationship. Here are a few tips on fair fighting: 1.Choose your battles wisely. You may want to write down the issues YOU ...

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4 Tricks Your Dog Can Teach You! [EXPERT]

A man’s best friend is a dog. It may be an idiom or an expression, but the fact that it even exists is something to look at. Dogs are the most popular household pet for men. They offer companionship, loyalty, unconditional love and laughter. They never nag and are always playful. Read More

How You Can Make A Great First Impression [EXPERT]

It may have been a scheduled blind date, or an incidental chance meeting, either way, every encounter has a first impression. The fact is that everyone evaluates one another when you meet for the first time. In the first few minutes or hours of getting to know someone, we form a personal opinion about another ...

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  • There is nothing wrong with you. Dating is all about having fun and meeting the right person. This sounds like the chase is over, the excitement is gone. As woman we have to pace the relationship. Slow your dating down. Men want to see you every day, but do not allow them to. You need to miss them, to want them, to enjoy them. Too much of a good thing in the beginning is not good. You probably havent met the right guy yet. Keep dating and enjoy the people you meet.Try not to see men more than 2 - 3 times weekly. The distance will slow down the pace, and allow you time to decide if you want to go further into the relationship or not. SEE MORE

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  • It depends. Did you do something to completely turn him off? Where you in a relationship? Men need space. When they crawl into their "man cave" let them go and work on yourself. Learn from your mistakes while you give him space. If it is meant to be he will come back, or show signs of interest. SEE MORE

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  • Allow yourself to cry. Allow yourself to question the status of your relationship for a moment. But you must focus on yourself. When a man asks for space, we need to give it to them with a smile. Although you feel like you are devistated and angry, give him space. You sound like you have a nice bond with your boyfriend, but he does not define you. Men coming home from service have a long road to get themselves back to what we call "normalcy". Many mixed emotions are involved, fears, memories, and he may even be trying to figure out where he wants to go in life once he returns. Distance always makes the heart grow fonder, espcially if the relationship was meant to be. If he has a lot on his plate right now, you should give him space to get himself together, while you work on YOU. It may hurt to not speak with him, but if you keep yourself busy and keep yourself distant from him, answers about the relationship will come. Never allow anyone to rob you of your joy. The only thing you can do right now is YOU. And let him sort himself out. If you try and force a man to call you, love you, or be with you when they are not ready,or are focused on other areas of their life, you are setting yourself up for failure. Keep your head up. SEE MORE

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  • When a man loves a woman,or wants to be with a woman, he will climb mountains for her. He will come to you, call you, text you, and be available at your convienence. Men are hunters by nature. They like to pursue. If you are doing all the work and making the plans to make him see you, I would think twice about this man. Ask yourself if this is the relationship you really want? Its about YOU. If you want more than sex, maybe he isnot the one for you. Only you can figure that out. SEE MORE

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  • Facebook and other social media connections can sometimes do more harm than good. If you are confident in your self but not confident in the relationship you may have to ask yourself why! I suggest staying confident in yourself, and acting the a creature unlike any other. Hold your head high, and worry about YOU. If the relationship was meant to be, and he loves you, no pretty girl will catch his eye, even if they are FB friends. If he suspects you are jealous, over something that may be nothing, he may try and hide or delete things in the future, to avoid being questioned. This will again upset you and probably start a fight. Trust is the most important thing in a committed relationship. If you have doubts about him or your relationship as a couple, he may not be the one for you. Take some time to figure out the reason why a pretty girl ruffled your feathers. And why when she was deleted you also became upset. If you love him, but dont trust him, it may be time to take some space for your own good intentions and re-evaluate the reasons you are together. When you get to the point in a realtionship where there is full trust, not even Miss America would upset you if he became friends with her. Work on YOU and than work on your relationship! SEE MORE

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Articles by Alysia Stern
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It's You...It's Really Not Me! [EXPERT]

If you have ever heard the words " it's not you, it's me"... get prepared to hold your head up high

Ball And Chain

Why Tough Love Is Sometimes The Best Route [EXPERT]

Tough Love is a way of taking two steps back to allow your dependent to take two steps forward!

Needy boyfriend

Tips For Fighting Fair [EXPERT]

Fighting can either make or break your relationship.

4 Tricks Your Dog Can Teach You! [EXPERT]

Love lessons from a very important member of your family...your dog!

Getting Ready

How You Can Make A Great First Impression [EXPERT]

First impressions are key to a great dating life.

Alysia Stern

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Dating/Being Single Support, Matchmaking

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