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Lyndsay Katauskas, Author

Lyndsay Katauskas - Author, Marriage Educator, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner - West Point, NY


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About Me

Lyndsay Katauskas is a wife, mother, business owner, Mars Venus Coach, and an Active Relationships facilitator with over 10 years of experience helping people have healthier relationships at work and at home. 

Whether you are single looking to date, already in a relationship, engaged, married at any stage, contemplating divorce, or starting over after divorce or loss--Lyndsay can help (including parenting!). She specializes in teaching you assertive communication skills, how to listen to your intuition, and how to stay balanced and stress-free as you go about making improvements and achieving your goals. She emphasizes how men and women's physiology impacts how you communicate, what this means for the success of your relationships, and how you can positively impact your health in regards to stress management.

Lyndsay is a United States Naval Academy graduate and a former United States Marine Corps combat engineer officer. She holds her masters degree in counseling and has worked at elementary, high school, mental health and substance abuse outpatient clinics. Her clientele has varied widely from young children to sex offenders and from successful business owners to parolees. What has been in common with all of her clients is their desire to do something different and learn something new, so they can be better people and have better relationships. 

As a Mars Venus Coach and Active Relationships Facilitator Lyndsay loves to explain neuroscience of change (how your brain works) and use her knowledge of solution focused brief therapy to empower her clients to accomplish their dreams.

When Lyndsay is not facilitating workshops or conducting individual coaching sessions she is playing with her children and dog, having fun with her husband who she's known since she was 17 years old, teaching Zumba or taking other Zumba classes, barefoot running, coming up with interesting Vegan dishes, sharing the health of doTERRA essential oils with others, making jewelry, or doing pilates or yoga. 

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The Reason I Became A Helping Professional

I became a helping professional, because I've experienced what unconditional love is and I want to help others to learn how to give and receive unconditional love too.

I discovered I had a passion for counseling while I was an upperclassman at the United States Naval Academy. Once I graduated as a U.S. Marine Corps officer, and I became a combat engineer officer, I found again that my most memorable moments with my Marines occurred while I was counseling them. After the military I obtained my masters degree of educaiton in counseling. I worked at elementary and high schools and in mental health and substance abuse outpatient clinics.

I grew up a military brat with both parents in the Air Force. I'm now a veteran and a military spouse. My husband and I have known each other since we were 17 years old. Relationships mean everything to me. After moving 27 times and still counting what I've learned is that I am at ease with change. Change and growth is what is normal to me. Whether it is relocating across the globe, making new friends, keeping old ones, or staying involved in hobbies and the community, I understand the fear behind taking that first step. That is my life. And it is the health and strenght of my relationships that has helped me overcome adversity and setbacks to make it an incredible life.

How we communicate affects how good our relationships are with our inner self, and with other people. Often the 90 day plans I create with clients focus on identifying the actions they need to take to realize their goals. How we make sure it is lasting change--is by creating congruency in our thoughts and feelings as we make the behavioral changes. we do this we also make sure to stay true to your values.

I strongly believe that we must be more inclusive when trying to help others. I don't think many of us know what it feels like or knows how to love without conditions.

We all want to belong somewhere--and we each have unique needs, but the area in which we are all seeking greater belonging in is in the area of our relationships and how we relate to other people.

That is why the skills can reach across boundaries of age, sexual preference, relationship status (single, committed, pre-marital, pre-divorce, newly married, mature marriages...., post-divorce, stepfamilies, mending from infidelities...), or religious preference.

I have helped the following populations and seen how learning and using life and resiliency skills has helped alleviate issues and solved their unhappiness or dissatisfaction.

--adolescents who come from families where their model of a in-tact relationship is missing or conditional (how many people do you know personally still are married/committed to their original partner and parent of their children?)
-- people who are single and want a good relationship (but are uncertain of why this perfect-love relationship remains elusive),
--pre-marital couples who are hoping to make their relationship work for the long haul, but that's all they have....hope and not skills
--newly married couples who have love, but not the skill set to turn their puppy love into mature love that can stand the good & bad stressors of life (kids, jobs, finances, illnesses)
--couples thinking of splitting or are up for reconciliation before divorcing or separating
--mature couples who want spice back in their life before they stray into infidelity, porn, sexual addiction or any other destructive behaviors
--the GLBT population that are fighting for recognition, acceptance, and whose unique needs are often ignored, repressed, and short-changed
--and those suffering from PTSD and TBI symptoms. My focus is on helping people function in their daily lives, by helping them to learn new skills to cope with their symptoms, not re-trigger old memories.

Everyone hopes to be loved unconditionally--where there is only acceptance no matter what you do, say, think, feel. We often find it in our spiritual lives...but I also think one of the main points in life is to learn how to relate and love other people.

However, based on current trends and statistics many of us seem to be missing the mark.

So, even if you think "nah, I have no problems or issues, this is NOT for me..." I gently suggest you think again and ask yourself..."what relationships in my life would I like to be better, to whom would I like to be closer to or with??" The only way we can become better people, is if we look hard at ourselves and if something has not been working..., then to try something new.

The workshops I teach on relationships and marriage education for military and families in the community are based on research that proves that if you work on said skills, your relationships will improve.

This is not counseling..., I have that skill set and access to the theories that we've been trying to use to help "fix" people (when really the fix comes from people learning new skill sets and pulling upon their own resilience to solve their own issues).

Educating yourself gives the power to you and respects that you know how best to make the changes you need to make.

Also....based on brain research..., did you know that focusing on the past, old memories, unhealthy behaviors will only keep these neural pathways awake in your brain? The fastest and easiest way to fix undesirable thoughts, feelings, or actions is to replace them in the present with NEW learned thoughts, feelings, or actions. This has been proven in people categorized with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Substance Abuse, and Substance Dependence...

There is hope! Join me in marrying hope with new skills so that you are more satisfied with your life! I'll provide you with accountability and help you create 90 day plans to ensure your desired changes become your reality.

Success Stories

Work and Personal Coaching

One of the biggest, best, most rewarding investments I've made in my business and personal life was making the decision to work with Lyndsay. She has been a constant source of inspiration, motivation, encouragement and support. Due to my coaching sessions I now have clarity in my purpose and a strategy to translate my vision into reality. Lyndsay has helped me navigate the rough terrains, held me up when I was down and cheered me on when I was making great strides. She has kept me accountable, taught me new skills, and reminded me to value myself without reservation. She truly has helped me to see and realize my absolute potential!!! --Tina D.

Intuitive and Ethical Professional

“I had the honor and joy of working with and supervising Lyndsay in a Level I and IOP substance abuse/dual diagnosis program a couple of years ago. In my work experience over the past 30 years in the substance abuse field (and martial arts), I have met only two other individuals with her intuitive, creative, positive and client centered focus and abilities. Lyndsay was always focused on her spiritual center, expressing herself to both clients and staff in pro-active, uplifting communication with tremendous intellectual ability. I swore she had a photographic and photoaudio memory - she would listen to another staff person present a topic, morph it with her own creativity and vocabulary, and present it to clients the next night with great impact. I recommend her MOST highly, as she will be focused on what is for your highest good, leaving herself out of the equation!

She was missed greatly by all of us when she left." --March 14, 2011

Jim Morgan

Vice President

Jett Morgan Treatment Services LLC

“Lyndsay is highly organized, professional and thorough in her work. She will help you make an action plan, keep you accountable to that plan and keep moving you forward! Through the Mars Venus philosophies, she will help you improve your relationships at work and at home, as well as reducing your stress. I highly recommend working with her as a Mars Venus Coach to change your personal and professional life!” --February 14, 2011

Karen Leckie

Owner & Coach

Mars Venus Now

Mars Venus Seminars & Workshops

Thank you so much for the relationship seminar! It was wonderful and I learned so much about communicating effectively. I recommend it for anyone who is serious about truly connecting positively with lovers, friends, spouses and family members. --Denise W.

Life Coaching

Lyndsay is a great coach. She keeps you accountable. She makes you more aware of your successes during the week, rather than focusing on what didn't go so well. She is very organized with her material and knowledgeable with what she's conveying/coaching. She also does a great job with her various stress/work trainings.

--Katie T.

CredentialsMed, Other
Time in Practice3-5 years
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseMarriage Educator
YourTango Expert Partner
I offer my servicesTelephone
By Email
Willing To Meet in Public Locations like Starbucks (please inquire)
Via Skype
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I am fluent inEnglish
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