Most people give up or leave angry and hurt when their desires aren't met. There's a better solution
The most destructive and most common challenge I hear from my clients is when their partner's don’t exhibit the same level of desire for each other. It’s always one of the following two conversations.
She’s too needy.
He wants to do everything with me and it’s suffocating.
I feel like I can never satisfy her.
I love him but I also need my own life and I feel guilty because I’m never enough for him.
The first step to move on is accepting your part in the relationship's demise.
Regardless of how you feel, the bottom line is that the relationship is over and you need to come to terms with moving on. But how do you do that? Our expert breaks it down into a step-by-step process.
Immediately after a break up, when you’re heartbroken, you don’t really know what to do. You have all these emotions inside and it’s hard to say if it’s about love or hate at this point. Take the time after a break up to focus your energy on something positive.
Reality show star or not, there are three things you can do to avoid getting divorced.
Sure, we could chalk up the impending divorce of Kordell and Porsha Stewart as another casualty of the reality show curse, but in truth, their short-lived marriage provides something powerful we can all learn from. Whether you appear on a reality show or not, when it comes to creating a successful marriage, you must design and define your relationship — something Kordell and Porsha appear to have missed.
Ask anyone who's been through divorce what it's like and they'll likely recount a loss of sleep, irritability, forgetfulness, tears, inability to function and sadness — sometimes all at once, sometimes sequentially, and that's on top of the never-ending list of chores and tasks triggered by the legal process, maybe finding somewhere new to live and maybe finding a new job. You can probably add a few of your own. So how do you get through it?
That is, if you even want him back when you're done!
Welcome to Splitville! It hurts like hell, doesn't it? There is nothing that stirs your equilibrium like a love lost. Your body just goes numb; this is the lowest low you have ever felt in your entire life. Everything is so gloomy, and you can't see pass today. If you do it's all scary stuff ... a life void of meaning and happiness.