What Women Want In A Man (According To A Matchmaker Who Knows)

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I’ve interviewed thousands of women. As a Matchmaker, it’s my job to meet droves of women and get a sense of who they are and what they’re looking for. I find out more from them in 5 minutes than you would on 5 dates.

Most women think they know what they want, but they really don’t. If you ask a woman what she’s looking for in a man, she’ll tell you she wants someone tall, dark, and handsome. But if you look at her relationship history, you’ll see that’s not always true.

Men are visual and fall in love through their eyes. They’re shallow and superficial. Sorry guys, you know it’s the truth. However, women fall in love through their ears. We care more about the whole package. We value a man’s personality and how he treats us.

I’m here to tell you that looks aren’t that important to all women. Most women want more than a great looking guy. Here's what women want in a man. And if you're truly the guy she's looking for, you'll have all of these traits.

1. You're kind and caring.

Women want a man who is kind and caring. We want someone to come home to at the end of the day who is our best friend. Women want a partner, an equal. Above all, we want a gentleman. Women want to date someone who makes them feel fabulous.

2. You're smart.

Intelligence is sexy. Women are captivated by smart men. Whether it’s informing us about the newest restaurant opening or teaching us something we didn’t know about baseball, we want to date someone we can learn from. We enjoy feeling enlightened.

3. You have a great sense of humor.

Being funny makes you more attractive to women. There’s no science to it, it’s just a fact. One hundred percent of women appreciate a man who is witty. If you can make a woman laugh, she’ll almost always think you’re awesome.

4. You exude confidence.

Women like men who are confident. When you’re sure of yourself and your actions show that, women are naturally drawn to you. Women are attracted to men who know they’re great.

5. You're charismatic.

In my dictionary, charisma is defined as having swagger, being spunky, or not seeming vanilla-like. Whichever definition you prefer, all women love a man who is charming. When you have a big personality, women find you irresistible.

6. You make time for us.

Leading a balanced lifestyle is important. Women enjoy dating a man who can do it all. We want to date someone who can prioritize his job, family, friends, and a relationship. We’re drawn to men who make time for us and show us that we’re an important part of their life.

7. You're a great listener.

A man who is a good listener is a true catch. Because women are more emotional than men, we love to share. We can talk for hours. We have tons of stories to tell and we want you to listen to all of them. If you can listen to a woman, and I mean genuinely listen, she’ll be impressed.

8. You're thoughtful.

Women are enticed by thoughtful men. Being thoughtful doesn’t mean whisking us away to Miami on a third date. Although we’d certainly love that, it isn’t necessary! Being thoughtful means showing us that you care.

If we mention that we love a certain restaurant, surprise us and plan a date there. If we say that we love a particular flower, bring us flowers on the next date. If we tell you that we’re eager to see a specific movie or play, get tickets and take us. A man who’s considerate is very sexy.

9. You're easygoing.

We want to date someone we can bring anywhere. If we’re at a business dinner, we want to date a man who can go with the flow and “be fancy.” When clients invite us to their box seats at a sports game, we want to date someone who can keep up with the lingo. We enjoy dating men who can be comfortable in any situation.

10. You present well.

Being put together and looking presentable is essential. Women want to date a man who is well dressed. A nice outfit can make you so much more attractive. Personally, I love a man in a nice suit. If you’re well dressed and put together, you’re showing the world that you value yourself and how you look.

At the end of the day, what women want in a man is someone to fall in love with. We want to date someone who makes us feel special and important.

 

Want to get her attention? Watch the video below for tips and tricks on how to get a girl to like you by getting inside her mind:

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Carly Spindel is a Matchmaker and relationship expert who has introduced 110 couples. She is passionate about spreading love throughout the country.

 

This article was originally published at Confessions Of A Matchmaker. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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