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3 Reasons To Go With A No-Fault Divorce (Even If It's Totally His Fault)

Heartbreak

Time to accept that your differences really ARE irreconcilable.

Adultery, abuse, abandonment, imprisonment. These are the grounds for divorce that we all understand — even applaud.

But then there are the divorces that cite irreconcilable differences. 

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Often, when we hear celebrities or our friends say they are divorcing due to irreconcilable differences, we tend to think it's a cop-out answer. Either they don't want anyone outside of their relationship (and their lawyers/counselors) to know what really happened to break up their marriage

We also may believe that agreeing to a no-fault divorce means a person is giving up on their marriage. Shouldn't they be fighting a divorce? 

Whatever the case is, citing irreconcilable differences tends to have a stereotype that it is the easy way out of a marriage they don't want. Which is not always the case.

 

So when it's you dealing with the heartbreak of divorce, you tend to hear all those judgments in your own head, even against yourself. 

In our latest Expert Quickies video, divorce attorney and advisor Karen Covy explains what you need to know about irreconcilable differences, and what a no-fault divorce means.

Understanding it better can help you know what kind of divorce is best for you, and explain why lots of people choose to cite irreconcilable differences in their divorces. 

Here are 3 reasons a no-fault divorce, or citing irreconcilable differences, may actually be the best way to get divorced:

1. An "irreconcilable differences" divorce can be the best way to handle divorce when you just don't get along. 

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To you, that may seem like taking the easy way out but the truth is, sometimes people change and they realize they are just not good together as husband and wife.

It happens.

They may have tried marriage counseling and therapy but at the end of the day, they tried and it is just not working out.

 

2. It can be an attempt at an amicable divorce.

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Citing irreconcilable differences is what they call a "no fault divorce" which means exactly what it sounds like — no one has to prove that the other was at fault for the divorce.

No one's past is dragged through the mud or their character questioned. 

 

3. Sometimes it is the only way to move on after a divorce.

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The harsh reality is that as long as one person wants the divorce, they can get it.

Yes, the other partner can slow down the process and make it cost more, but they don't really have the power to stop it from happening.

Sometimes it's just easier to let the breakup happen smoothly and kindly by citing irreconcilable differences.

 

Of course, everyone goes into a marriage hoping it will last forever "until death do you part".

That's not reality, however. And it's ok.

And if you're the one in the marriage who does NOT want the divorce, you may be tempted to fight it. But in the video, Karen Covy explains that fighting it won't make the divorce go away.

It only extends your pain. And that's why no-fault divorce may be a best way to get divorced, in so many ways. 

And remember not to make assumptions when someone chooses to end their marriage, no matter how they choose to go about it. 

To you, it may seem the easy choice, but more likely than not, it is the hardest thing in the world for them to do.

If you need a little help getting through your divorce in one piece, our experts are here to help! Reach out to Karen for the support you need.

 

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