DEAL WITH IT.
GOOD NEWS, PERVERTS!
LET THE ORGIES COMMENCE!
JK, JK, I mean, unless that is what you are into, in which case, orgy away.
Scientists at the University of Michigan analyzed relationships of 2,100 participants over 25 (because peeps in their early 20s be crazy) with about 1,500 of those people in monogamous relationships and around 600 in committed non-monogamous relationships.
However, levels of jealousy were lower and trust was higher among those engaged in committed open relationships.
That's right if you want less jealousy and more trust, the veritable bedrock of any romantic relationship, it looks like opening your relationship up might be the way to go!
So what do we make of these, results, huh?
Well, as a person who is monogamous but in a relationship with a polyamorous man, let me tell:
They are totally not shocking.
To me, it makes a lot of sense that people in open relationships would be overall more happy.
The other reason is the one that matters more, I think, and it's that people in open relationships talk more.
When you are dating and sleeping with multiple people, and being open about that fact, being open itself is not enough.
You have to talk through how you are feeling, how they are feeling, on a daily basis.
An open relationship is by its very nature a crowded and busy one. There just isn't room for anyone to ruminate in their discontent or unhappiness. In order for an open relationship to be successful, the people in it must have communication skills so good that the government would tap them to come interact with aliens if they ever landed on Earth.
When you're in a monogamous relationship it can be easy to keep things to yourself, to put off having the difficult conversation "until the moment comes." When that moment never comes, that's when unhappiness creeps in.
There was one aspect of the study that made me, as a person in a polyamorous relationship, a little bit sad.
The study also found that people in open relationships feel more love and trust for their primary partner than they do for their secondary partner.
As a person who would be labeled as the "secondary" partner, that made my heart hurt.
But here's a thing to remember: Not all open relationships are polyamorous relationships.
In polyamorous relationships, the people in them do not view love as being something that runs out. It's infinite in supply.
So you don't weigh and measure your love accordingly between partners, you just love those partners differently.
I can't wait until someone does a study on monogamous couples versus polyamorous couples. That noise will have Mike Pence clutching onto "Mother" for dear life.