There's an art to dealing with those who annoy us.
There’s nothing you can do to escape the fact that there’s always going to be annoying people in your life and sometimes in your own family. OK, most definitely in your own family.
It’s a fact of life there will be strangers that annoy you, people you love who annoy you, and random folk that you have a passing acquaintance with as well, but with so many irritating and annoying people, it can be challenging to know what to do with them.
Sometimes, people know that they’re being annoying and can get a certain satisfaction by annoying the crap out of you, while others can be completely clueless about how irritating a certain action that they’re doing is.
After my father’s funeral, my family and I were dividing up his possessions, as you do. I didn’t want his dinnerware and with my blessing gave them to another family member. Well, that family member couldn’t understand why I would part with the plates and every so often would either ask me if I wanted them or would suggest arrangements on how I could get them.
The arrangements were absurd as I lived in Los Angeles and my family member lived in the Bay Area. She’d say things like, “I have some friends who are going to Yosemite, could you meet them there to pick up the plates?” Yosemite is about a five-hour drive from where I am and meeting someone there to get something I didn’t want wasn’t going to happen, but this family member wouldn’t let it go. She may as well have suggested that she put the plates on a rocket for me to pick up on Mars.
I’m getting annoyed just thinking about it. In the end, it would have better if I had just taken the stupid plates and given them to charity or broken them (which I believe is good luck in the Greek culture).
At the very least, it takes patience and keeping a cool head when dealing with annoying people. We all have our own ways of handling them — some are successful (the other person has no idea that they’re working your last nerve) and others aren’t (such as when you explode in annoyance).
Since much of our behavior is related to our zodiac signs, here’s what happens when people annoy you.
Since you're not afraid to speak your mind and sometimes can be blunt, if someone annoys you, you'll call them out on it. If one of your friends is going on and on about how they can't squeeze into a size zero any longer, you'll let them know in no uncertain terms how great their life is, how they have so much to be grateful for, and how it's obvious they're not really complaining about being heavier. It would be less annoying and more honest for them to just admit they're in great shape.
Being communicative isn't one of your talents and you tend to be a bit more forceful than you want to be at times, so the best plan of action for you is, when you're somewhere there are annoying people, to simply tune them out and let your mind wander. Try thinking about something that you enjoy or think of the annoying people as comic characters that you'd laugh at in an SNL sketch. The more you distance yourself from those who cause you annoyance, the better.
You can get along with almost anyone and you understand that there are going to be annoying people in your life. You can't always avoid them and sometimes you need to engage with them (like your boss). You know better than to fight a battle you'll never win, so you resign yourself to the fact that annoying people are inevitable and that to get angry when having to deal with them is pointless.
If someone is annoying you, you would rather not hurt their feelings so you're unlikely to tell them to shut up or stop with all their foolishness. When the videos they insist on showing you start to make your eyes bleed or they refuse to stop telling you stupid jokes, you put the blame on yourself for not enjoying them by saying you're tired or that you're in a bad mood because you had a hard day — anything that will make them stop and not make them feel bad about themselves.
When someone is bugging you, you tend to recognize yourself in their actions. You know the things that most bother us in others are often qualities we recognize in ourselves and you tend to make everything about yourself. "Oh no, do I come off that annoying when I try to explain something?"
You know that sometimes people are annoying just to see how much you'll take before you push back and that getting angry won't make them stop any sooner. You try to keep calm and just wait for the annoyance to pass. You're usually trying to figure out some problem in your head anyway.
One way of being annoying is to be competitive with your complaints or achievements. If you say you did an hour on the stationary bike, they did an hour on the treadmill and an hour on the elliptical. You know if you try to one up them, this competition will just go on and on, so you let them win. If they got an amazing designer job, say, "Congratulations, I'm so happy for you" and move on.
When someone is getting under your skin, you tend to focus on why they're doing it, how they're affecting your life, and what will be the annoying thing that finally causes you to explode. When they do exactly what you think they'd do, you feel some satisfaction in the fact that you were right all along. You know you're giving them too much power to affect your life but you do enjoy being right about things.
It's not up to you to school someone on how immature they are or how much they irritate you and other people. Besides, it's not as if they'd listen to what you have to say anyway; they're far too busy being a pain in the ass. The best thing you can do is finish up your business with them and get out of their presence.
You don't have the energy to suffer fools, so if someone's getting in the way of your work, you'll tell them that they're annoying you. Let them know that they're working on you and that it would be best if they backed off. It's a very healthy and mature way of dealing with any annoying people.
Since you appreciate people's little quirks and eccentricities, the things that other people might find annoying don't bother you as much. You try to look at them from another perspective — they're not doing something irritating, they're merely expressing a unique and fascinating personality quirk.
You can tolerate annoying behavior up to a certain point, but when it becomes too much and you can't rationalize their behavior (they didn't get enough attention as a child) you try to retreat to the fantasy world in your head. However, don't make yourself blind if their annoying behavior is being used as a way to keep you off your guard so that they can take advantage of you. Stay woke.