To The Women Looking For Smokin' Hot Chemistry ... We Need To Talk

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Love, Sex

If you MUST feel instant sparks, there may be trouble ahead ...

Have you ever been with a man you had that instant spark with?

You felt that electricity flying back and forth between you. You were so in sync sexually that going to bed with him rocked your world. It was SO obvious he was into it as much as you were.

What woman doesn’t want smoking hot sexual chemistry the way it’s portrayed on TV, in the movies, and in romance novels?

(I’m getting excited just thinking about it as I write this!)


If you’re a woman who uses that fiery spark to measure a man's relationship potential, here are 7 things you need to know.

1. Yes, he will certainly be HOT in bed.

When you meet a hot guy, he’ll most likely be A LOT of fun in bed (and maybe some other places too, like in front of the fireplace, on the dining room table, etc.). It’s not always a sure thing, but usually, you can tell.

That kind of attraction pulls you together dramatically like nothing else on earth. So you rush to pull off each others’ clothes and satisfy that urge ...


2. That is because the survival of the species depends upon us 'doing it.' 

Hot chemistry relates to our most animalistic nature. After all, the original purpose was to ensure the survival of the human race.

Sexual chemistry exists so we continue to populate the earth. Nature programmed intense attraction factors into our DNA to help us recognize a good mate and create healthy babies.


3. The intensity of it all frequently leads us to mistake its real meaning.

Unfortunately, many single women of all ages mistakenly believe instant passion means more than it does. Hot sexual chemistry is often nothing more than that — an intense sexual attraction that isn't easy to either deny or ignore.


4. It can be tough to remember that desire is not the same thing as love.

I know this can be hard to deal with emotionally, as well as confusing to understand, especially when these feelings first emerge. However, his desire for you and your mutual attraction doesn't mean he loves you, or that you love him. Neither does it mean he has long-term ideas for a future together.

A man can want you and be the most fantastic lover ever without generating any feelings of love at all for either or both of you. That’s why chemistry can lead you astray, mess with your head, and crush your heart.


5. The trouble is, an instant attraction doesn’t always last.

Sadly, that initial chemistry often fizzles out quickly. I’ve had clients who insist they can’t date a man with whom they don’t have that immediate spark, even though these relationships just don’t last.

Hot chemistry with a particular man does NOT necessarily indicate he would be a good mate beyond the bedroom.


6. Not a sign of compatibility.

If you are seeking lasting love, sexual compatibility is definitely important — but it sure doesn’t automatically mean you’ve found long-term compatibility. For a healthy life partnership, you want a man you can talk to and trust. You want to have fun with him and to be able to count on him in a pinch.

Compatibility is based on the willingness to communicate and compromise, and these qualities are far more essential than the fleeting power of attraction (and your inability to keep your hands off each other).


7. Chasing chemistry makes it harder to find true love.

When you chase chemistry, you find men who most likely aren’t looking for love. They may be charming, sensual, exciting and super sexy, but they usually just aren’t looking for anything deeper.


The bottom line is that smoking hot chemistry can be a whole lot of fun in the short run, but if you make it your top priority, you may cheat yourself out of lasting love. When you focus on more important characteristics beyond attraction you give yourself the best chance of finding the love you dream of.

When you connect with a man who tries to see you at least once a week, stays in touch by phone and text, is willing to compromise and work things through, and has a similar long-term agenda as you do, then you know you are getting close.

And if he makes you laugh and treats you like gold, you know you’ve found a keeper.


If you want to find love faster and stop wasting precious time on the wrong men, contact Ronnie Ann Ryan for a free Dating Discovery session at 203-877-3777. Or get her free book 7 Dire Dating Mistakes that Keep You Single.



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