The stars say not to waste your time on him.
Have you ever hooked up with someone you felt you had great chemistry with but that you knew a sexual connection was as far as it was going to go? Or maybe you went on a few dates with someone and on paper, it looked like it should work, but it just fizzled out.
Then there are those times where you date for a long time and you start to believe that this person is the one you're going to spend your whole life with. You secretly start dreaming of what that life will be like. And then, out of nowhere, they break up with you.
Some people just aren't meant to be together for whatever reasons. It would be nice if we got heads up when a relationship wasn't going to work out or when it would go completely off the rails.
If you knew that the person you were dating had no intention of ever making a long-term commitment, would you continue to date them or would you cut your losses and move on?
I know some women (sometimes mistakenly) think that, with the right amount of loving, they can get their partner to change their mind and make a commitment. The truth is when you try to change what somebody feels is a fundamental part of their belief system, you probably won't be successful. You may love them, and they may even love you, but if you want to get married and have kids and they don't, you'll save yourself a lot of frustration down the road if you let them go.
There are times that our emotions clouded our judgment, and we ended up investing a lot of time in a person and had it not work out. We can refuse to see the signs and try to convince ourselves that the relationship will work out the way we want it.
Don't bother with a lazy guy. If you meet a guy and all he wants to do is lie around in his sweatpants watching sports but not participating in them, find someone else. You like to be active and are always doing fun things or being involved in competition. Low-energy people and high-energy people do not tend to have lasting relationships.
Strike the reserved guy off your list of potential Mr. Rights. Since you tend to keep your feelings closely guarded, if you were with someone who was the same way you'd constantly be at an impasse. You should be with someone who is expressive enough for the both of you.
Avoid the downer guy. You have a sparkling and witty personality, and someone who focused on doom and gloom would get on your last nerve very quickly. You need someone who can match you in wit, clever conversation, and social ease, not someone who has a dark cloud hanging over them at all times.
It won't come as a surprise that it would never work out with an insensitive guy. You need to express your feelings, and can you imagine if you were pouring out your heart and soul and he just laughed in your face or told you to shut up? You'd feel as if you were being stabbed all over. You'll do better with an empathetic guy who can relate to you and your emotions.
Don't even give a narcissist a second glance. You have no desire to share the spotlight and you don't want to compete for it, either. A narcissist is going to want to make everything all about them when clearly it should be all about you.
Don't become involved with a dreamer; it will only frustrate you in a dozen different ways. You see things in a very clear-cut logical way and anyone who has their heads in the clouds isn't a good match for you.
Anybody who is combative and ready to fight isn't for you and you would not do well in a relationship with them. Someone who gets off by confrontation and disharmony would make you very anxious and would honestly be everything that you don't want.
Don't bother with the indecisive guy. You need someone who can match your passion and won't crumble when things get intense. When you find your match, it will be explosive but so worth it.
A relationship with someone without a sense of humor will never work out for you. You love to laugh and you love making others laugh, and someone who barely cracks a smile when you make a joke will annoy you. Humor is a very necessary component in life for you; don't underestimate its value.
Don't get involved with someone who isn't reliable. You are super-dependable and your word is your bond; if you say you'll do something you always do it. If a guy doesn't have the same moral compass and values as you do and is kind of shady, let him go and find somebody new.
It's not going to work out with a guy with a hot body but no brains. Sure, if you want to hookup occasionally with him that's OK, but if you're looking for a long-term relationship you're going to need someone who can keep up with your brilliant mind.
Don't even go there with someone who hasn't an artistic bone in his body. If he can't even appreciate art, he'll never thoroughly appreciate you. You'll see him as soulless if he isn't an art lover or creative at all and, ultimately, he'll bore the bejesus out of you.