It's more than what you look like.
In our world, pop media icons and supermodels look at you from billboards on every corner, and physical beauty is seen as an ideal to strive for. However, one other important thing that our society of science and progress has taught us is that sex appeal isn’t all about physical appearance.
So what is it that makes a man attractive if not his look?
It turns out that ‘attraction’ is a highly complicated biochemical process, and there are dozens of factors that influence it. Some of these things are completely beyond our control, for example, the symmetry of your features or length of your ring fingers (did you know that men with fingers of similar length are believed to be more faithful?)
However, there are some things that you can actually influence, and that can bump up your attractiveness level in the eyes of women.
1. Having a purpose and achieving your goals
Studies indicate that goal-oriented people are seen as more attractive by default. We can’t keep from being drawn to individuals who have a sort of inner power and drive that pushes them forward.
When a woman looks at a man, she assesses him as a prospective life-partner. A devoted person with strong priorities and objective goals will win every time when compared with guys who lack a direction in life.
2. Dressing the part
Note that it’s not so much the price of your clothes that matters as their style and quality. An attractive man has to dress in fitting garments that will complement his figure. Your outfit must be stylish and fit both the occasion and your social status.
Don’t forget accessories as combining luxury timepieces with plain but high-quality clothes can help you create the veneer of style you need to make a great first impression. It’s what will get you the initial contact you need to show off your other attributes and charm the girl.
3. Having the right amount of facial hair
While there is no arguing the fact that facial hair is a matter of personal preference, social surveys clearly indicate that the majority of women see stubble as a rather sexy detail. It’s a symbol associated with masculinity from the dawn of time, and it can give you the hint of brutish appearance that is so popular today.
However, the trick is not to overdo it as a full beard is often associated with aggressiveness, and fewer women find it attractive. The so-called ‘five o’clock shadow’, on the other hand, is usually considered very sexy.
4. Being chivalrous and gentle
It’s true that a man has to be strong and capable of protecting and providing for his family. However, strength doesn’t equal rudeness. Women today appreciate chivalry and class even more than they did during the Victorian times. Perhaps it’s because so few real gentlemen are left.
Simple gestures, like opening doors and helping her to put on the coat will boost your attractiveness level and help build up your reputation as a ‘good man’. Combine this with being gentle and caring with your chosen girl, especially during and after sex, and you’ll definitely be a keeper.
5. Being open and able to express your feelings
The ‘strong, dark, and silent’ type works for heroines of teenage love stories who believe their ‘prince’ has to be otherworldly. Real women know that fantasies are nice, but building relationships with this kind of guy is just too complicated.
To amp your attractiveness, you need to show that you are able of understanding the girl’s needs and wants and communicating your own. Forget about the outdated ‘men don’t do feelings’ shtick and be real. Show your girl that you care about her and don’t keep quiet about the things you want for yourself. Sometimes you just have to talk it out and your relationship will soar to new heights after this.
This article was originally published at The Good Men Project. Reprinted with permission from the author.