What Guys Really Think Of Threesomes (As Told By VERY Honest Men)

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Two's a party, but is three REALLY a crowd?

Ah, the allure of threesomes.

They are a staple of pornography and a staple of most men's sexual fantasies.

But just what do dudes find so compelling about sex with three people? I was dying to me know, because to me it has always seemed like sex with more than one person is just A LOT more work. Heck, I have a hard enough time keeping one partner satisfied during sex, trying to keep all parties of a threesome feeling awesome seems less like wish-fulfillment and more like a boat-load of work. 

That said, I have never met a man who WOULDN'T want to have threesome sex, if given the opportunity. 

So I decided to outsource my confusion and consternation, asking a bunch of anonymous men just what it is exactly that makes a threesome so compelling.

The answers were so not what I expected!


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Okay guys, what do you think of threesomes? Have you ever had a threesome? If so, why? What's appealing about it to you? What's not so appealing? Any good threesome stories to share? 

  • "Gay man here. Sex with one man is good, sex with two is even better. My only actual threesome (I've had more experiences with four, oddly) involved courting a couple over the course of a week camping with a couple hundred bears. It was a lovely, slow seduction. The only drawback has been a self-consciousness about paying attention to both men, so neither felt neglected. [That] can get in the way of just letting go."
     
  • "I very much enjoy threesomes. With my current SO we've had threesomes with 6 other partners (all with other women). Years ago I had a threesome with an ex and her boyfriend. That was my first threesome and for being the first time it wasn't as awkward as I might have expected. Probably helped that I knew them both. I really like all the extra sensations you can get from threesomes that you can't get with a single partner."


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  • "I have a friend and after we both became single we started hanging out more and occasionally hooking up. We'd talked about having a threesome with my SO a few times, but she was a little reluctant. One night we had her over to hang out and play games and she decided she was okay staying over. We all get upstairs and get comfortable in the bed (yay for king size beds) and shortly my SO went to the bathroom. A bit of time passes. Like 5 or 10 minutes. I realize it's been a while so I go to check on her and I find her curled up around a toilet -- we'd had some drinks and she'd apparently been mixing hers rather strongly. I made sure she was going to be okay and made sure she didn't need anything then I was like 'So, since <friend> is here and in bed would you mind if...' And she goes 'No, go have fun. I don't mind.' Later she says she could hear us having sex from down the hall and it was so hot she just wanted to crawl into the room to watch. And that was the time my SO drank herself out of a threesome."
     
  • "Nope never had one. I've always had a romanticized notion of sex that's lead to more prudish sexual inhibitions and habits."
     
  • "My very first time having sex with a woman was a threesome with my best friend and his girlfriend. It was a lot of fun, and a comfortable and positive space to explore my sexuality. I think that so long as everyone is communicative and enthusiastically interested, threesomes can be a great play space. You just need to be wary of unbalanced power dynamics and be extra cognizant of your own emotions/needs as well as those of the others involved."
     
  • "I've had two, both with a girlfriend and another girl we were hanging out with. Very fun, a little awkward, and they can be super hot, but also you never know if your third isn't going to be good in bed (which happens, and happened). What I didn't know until we did it a couple times was that emotional time afterwards is really important, if one of them is your SO. After you go for it, spend time with your partner, to remind them that they're still your emotional focus even though you're sharing a new person physically."


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  • "I have had good luck with a threesome. It was between me, my wife at the time and a good friend. It was light fun, we all had the same expectations and it worked out great. In some ways it was pretty tame, just a bit more work checking in to make sure everyone was good and ok."
     
  • "I'd like to try one, it seems exciting, partially due to the cultural forbidden-ness of it."
     
  • "I really love threesomes a lot. I have them quite often, several a week right now, and I've been doing it for many, many years (my first was almost 20 years ago). I love women having sex with each other. It's an incredibly sexy thing to me. And I like being able to make multiple women cum, I like watching them make each other cum, I like the glimpses of 'girl stuff' I sometimes get (and I'm not talking sex here) that come out when women are sex partners. My best group sex story is probably going to a kink / sex / drug party and joining 6 women who were all fight-fucking each other. They would get vicious and mean and then soft and gentle and I saw an actual, functioning fingering train."


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