Quit It! 7 Self-Sabotaging Things Women Do (That Guys Just... Don't)

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We need to act more like men.
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We need to act more like men.

Though I can't say that I really hold most men in high esteem, I will say that there are quite a few times that guys definitely have better ideas on how to behave than most other genders out there.

Love it or hate it, acting like a guy often means that you get sh*t done. And most girls could learn a thing or two from the guys around them. Primarily, they may learn behaviors that they should drop.

Here are some of the worst self-sabotaging things women do that guy's typically don't, and why we should "man up."

1. We tiptoe around issues.


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Since birth, women are often trained to be "nice" and to avoid upsetting people. They are told to suppress their own needs and to avoid voicing their concerns. So, they tiptoe around what they want. They hint at it. And then they pout when they don't get what they want.

Rather than do this, it's better to pull a page out of the guy's guidebook and get a bit more assertive. Say what you want, and you might get it.

2. We put our needs last.

No, no, and NO! If you can't take care of yourself, you're not going to be able to take care of others. Stop wearing yourself thin, and start asking for help. Guys are known for being selfish, and to a point, I can't blame them. We all need "me" time once in a while.

3. We tend to place our value on reproducing.

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Actually, everyone seems to place a woman's value on her ability to reproduce. And this is not a healthy attitude. Could you imagine how insane guys would sound if all they'd ever talk about would be being a father and dirty diapers? Furthermore, could you imagine how men would react if someone told them that they can't be a "real man" without having three kids?

4. We second-guess our feelings.

And you know what? It's understandable. Women are told, day in and day out, that they are emotional. So, what ends up happening is that they end up worrying that the feelings they have are not legit. At times, they'll even go against their gut feelings and land themselves in danger. This needs to stop, right now.

5. Due to the influx of rom-com movies, we tend to optimistically think things work out like in the movies.


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I really, truly wish that romantic comedy movies would just go back to the hellpit they came from. This genre of movies made a lot of women believe in the idea that men change; that, somehow, if they're kind enough, they can change an abuser into a good man. They also tell girls that men will run after them and do grand gestures, when in reality they won't.

6. We do way too much to please people.

Seriously. We're people-pleasers because we're told to be "nice girls." We need, desperately, to stop giving a sh*t about what other people want from us. We also need to start getting mean about certain things, because otherwise, people won't listen.

7. We overanalyze every...little...thing.

Ever run a scene through your head wondering what that guy meant? Yeah, stop it. From what I've seen, girls are way too analytical about what guys mean. Guys, on the other hand, tend to take things at face value. We need to learn from them, don't you think?

 

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