It's not as sad as it sounds.
Boyfriends come with benefits. And yes, that includes the dirty kind.
While we love their sleepy smiles and how they're always down for a midnight milkshake run, the reason we get into relationships is actually pretty self-serving: boyfriends make us feel good.
There's no question that being in a relationship does something seriously awesome to your self-esteem. Having a cute guy constantly telling you how cute you are makes you feel, like, really cute.
That high you get knowing someone else other than your mom thinks you're the tits is really easy to get addicted to — and if you're not careful, you could become too reliant on it. Which makes being single kind of the worst.
But here's the good news: you don't need a boyfriend to feel good about yourself and love yourself. You don't need someone else to tell you how wonderful you are to feel wonderful. You can give yourself all the things you're looking for in a relationship.
AND you can do it right flippin' now.
Instead of fantasizing about waking up next to a guy and going out for pancakes, wake up and take some extra time to make yourself a big, beautiful breakfast.
Instead of going home with some drunken dude at the bar who's comparing you to Shailene Woodley, treat yourself to a really expensive vibrator and save yourself from ever experiencing whiskey dick again. BOOM.
The possibilities of self-love are literally endless.
For most of your life, you've probably put a lot of hard work and effort into other people with the hope that one day they'll returning the favor. But let's just be honest: most of the time they don't.
But what if you put all of that energy into yourself? What if instead of complaining about all of the things you're not getting, you shut up and did it?
Of course, most of us want to find a relationship, but that doesn't mean we should waste our time being single on being sad. Take this period of full-on independence and commit to loving yourself. And when you do find a guy, chances are your relationship will be a hell of a lot better because you're not relying on him for your happiness.
Treat yourself the way you want other people to treat you, and start experiencing all the love you’ve been keeping yourself from.
You deserve happiness — and you’re the only person who can give you that.