Get out of your head.
We all have a pretty picture in our minds of what our ideal relationship would look like. Half concocted from Katherine Heigl romance movies and half dreamed up from things we saw on the internet, the kind of love we think we want is hardly ever what we get. It’s disheartening and the basis for 80% of my drunken journal entries.
But we can take comfort in numbers. We’re not alone in our tendencies to exaggerate reality.
I’d say most women do this kind of dangerous thinking on the daily.
Almost every guy we meet or interact with (excluding family members up to third cousins) is subjected to a fantasy so good it could be its own Katherine Heigl romance movie. Our imaginations run so wild on so little that the film industry should really be seeking us out for future projects, just sayin’.
And while daydreaming about a guy you just met is hella romantic (especially if it’s raining and you’re near a large window), it has to potential for some serious consequences. Like, for example, you get so caught up in the fantasy you alone created that you ignore signs he doesn’t actually like you, or worse, that he’s no good for you.
It’s time we get our heads out of the clouds and back to reality.
Well, hun, you can’t be mad at someone for not living up to the version of themselves you created in your head.
That’s literal nonsense.
The truth is, we break our hearts through our own insane expectations. We spend more time dissecting the romance with our girlfriends than we do in the actual romance. We expect serious relationships with guys we’ve been out with twice.
We hold men up to high standards, but fail to ever tell them what those standards are.
Love, dating, relationships, they’re all just experiences. Some are serious, and some are not.
Some will break your heart, and some will just make you laugh.
Some last a night and others a lifetime. But no matter how hard you try, they will all be what they’re meant to be.
So rather than fight and force every guy you meet to be “the one,” just let them be someone.
Someone who’s value in your life can only be determined by time — time spent in the real world and not in your head.