These are halting your progress as a human being.
Congratulations! You are over 30 and are finally an adult. In fact, several hundred years ago, you would be at the end of your life span. Have you lived it like an actual real grown-up? Probably not. No one these days actually does.
But here are some routes on how to get started. Now that you're a real adult, you should probably stop doing these 12 things. You've out-grown them, afterall.
1. Being selfish in your friendships
If you have a friend who is willing to drop everything and come to you when you need them, be a friend for that person, too. If you don't wish to be, don't ask them to be that person for you.
Friendships often have a hierarchy where one is the doer, giver, goer, and the other just receives. If your friendship is all about you, it's not a friendship. Make an equal effort, or don't expect it. If your friend has come to every dinner party you've ever thrown and you've never even seen their home, this is you.
2. Not having cash on you
I know, I know; we live in a world that allows everything to be paid digitally. We can use cards, we can Venmo, and we can Apple Pay. But an adult shouldn't leave the house without cash, ever.
I cannot count the times I've laid out money to pay a bill in a cash-only restaurant with friends who had gone out without money on them. Don't assume everywhere you go is credit card friendly, or that those you're with are more responsible and will have some of their own. Are you that eager to end up washing dishes?
3. Sleeping your life away
When we were in college, it was common to stay out all night and then sleep until noon the next day. If you still have the capacity to sleep half a day, you clearly have too much free time and need to get a hobby. Or a job.
4. Staying out until the wee-wee hours in the morning
While we're at it, if you are 30+ years old, why are you having plans that start at 11 PM? Why are you having parties that begin way after primetime television ends? Twenty-two-year-olds can go to work on no sleep, the rest of us can't. Or shouldn't.
5. Showing up at work visibly hungover
See above. If you party all night, this is a possibility and it's simply not acceptable.
6. Making bullsh*t excuses for not living the life you want
Whether it's eating food you know is terrible for you but can't resist, or not working out, or overspending your budget, it's not acceptable. We shouldn't have toxic relationships, and that includes with ourselves.
7. Building debt
You're at the age where you're hoping to build toward something. Maybe it's buying a home, a car, or starting a family. Building credit card debt and living beyond your means makes all this further from your reality. And if you are 30+ and still having mom and dad help you with your rent or bills, that also means you're living beyond your means.
8. Skipping beauty routines
Aging is a slow state of decay. You're moving along in that decay and you NEED to step up your beauty routine. That means anti-aging treatments, moisturizing, and hydration has to become a habit immediately.
9. Holding onto petty grudges
Stop Facebook stalking your exes, or talking about your exes, or trash talking former friends. Life is short. Keep the people in your life close, and get rid of anyone that isn't making your world a better place. Don't participate in drama and don't cause drama. Don't live in the past; work to make a better future.
10. Finding your self-worth in other people
Say goodbye to toxic relationships and toxic friends. That includes if they are within your family. Stop saying yes to things because you're afraid of people being angry at you. Do what makes you happy.
11. Not cooking....ever
Learn a handful of recipes and build on that. It's healthier and more budget-friendly.
12. Thinking you have it all figured out
You don't. As you get older you realize just how ridiculous and naïve we ALL are.