If You Do These 6 Things, It's No Wonder You're Always Friend Zoned

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6 Things That Are Keeping You In The Friend Zone

Here's exactly what you SHOULDN'T do.

By Sujeiry Gonzalez

Some people assume that Latinas always get the guy, but many chicas struggle with romance and find themselves perpetually stuck in the friend zone. We spend years pursuing men that aren’t into us, but instead of wining, dining and banging, our crush greets us with a bear hug and calls us “buddy.”

Then we wonder: why do I permanently live on Friend Zone Lane — cross street Never Get the Guy? ​Here's why the friend zone status is haunting you. ​

1. Playing the friend role.

Guys take cues from us. If he doesn’t think you’re flirting, he’s going to treat you like a friend. If you talk to him about other men, he will fill the role of BFF — not BF. So if a guy catches your eye, act accordingly.

2. Lack of self-confidence.

A lack of confidence hinders your ability to flirt and otherwise show interest. Besides, no man wants to be with a woman who feels unworthy. In the end, you play it safe, become their buddy and live in the friend zone.

3. No game.

Maybe you’re a hot tamale and you know it. You feel good about yourself all day, every day. No self-esteem issues to note! So, what gives? Why do you spend Saturday nights watching your crush hit on girls or listening to him brag about his conquests?

Because your game is whack. As in, you probably don’t know how to flirt or hit on men; therefore, they have no clue that you like them.

Flirting is a skill. When single and hoping to date, don’t expect a guy to hit on you if you’re not doing your part. Work on your game. Read some articles, watch a video on YouTube and practice.

4. Too much time.

You meet a guy and you’re instantly attracted to him, but you don’t have the balls to say so or flirt. Eventually, he becomes your go-to guy friend. You’ve been friends for months, maybe years. And, though you still long for him, he just sees you as a friend. That’s because too much time has passed.

Men are visual creatures. When it comes to romance, sex and dating, they like immediacy and instant gratification. If you’ve been friends for a long time, your window may just have closed.

5. One of the guys.

You go with him to Hooters and nudge him while saying, “check out her rack.” You can probably even outdrink him, and often do. Yup, you’re just like one of the guys. 

While you don’t need to wear a dress to get the guy, you shouldn’t punch him on the shoulder, thumb wrestle and otherwise act like one of his frat boys if you want to fraternize with him in the bedroom.

6. Not enough mystery.

What’s familiar is comfortable. To most men, comfortable reminds them of an old married couple.

Men like excitement. They like the chase. If he knows every nook and cranny —  and the story of your life and all the men who’ve come and gone — it’s doubtful he will engage with you romantically. The mystery is gone, and so is he. Onto the next chica while you’re twiddling your thumbs on Friend Zone Lane.

This article was originally published at Latina. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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