7 MAJOR Differences Between A Psychopath And A Sociopath

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Differences Between Marrying A Psychopath vs Sociopath
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KNOW the difference.

Psychopaths and sociopaths: the words are tossed around with the frequency of Parmesan and Romano cheese at an Italian restaurant. But like the two cheeses, does anyone really know the difference between a psychopath and a sociopath?

They may seem similar, but they aren't. There are certain things they have in common. For example, a total disregard for socially acceptable behavior, the law, other people's feelings, a lack of guilt, and (sometimes) violent tendencies. Sounds like a real peach of a person.

In case you're married (or dating) someone you may think is one of the above, here's a handy list to help you clarify. (Also, you may want to bail on this relationship. Just saying.)

1. Nature versus nurture

The main difference between the two monsters is how they were created.

Sociopaths: the result of nurture. An abusive upbringing or other such childhood trauma can lead to someone becoming a sociopath, like The Joker in Batman.

Psychopaths: born with faulty wiring. The part of the brain in charge of impulse control and emotions is underdeveloped, leading them to be born psychos.

2. Emotional stability

Sociopaths: explosive and anxious. They get angry at the drop of a hat. They aren't so great at hiding their emotions, instead openly blaming other people for their problems. Kinda like, "It's your fault I stubbed my toe!" Sociopaths are highly impulsive and lack patience.

Psychopaths: cool, calm and collected. They're so chill, you'll think they're on permanent Xanax. 

3. Ability to connect with humans

Sociopaths: are overall crappy people ... but they can at least somewhat understand human emotions.

Psychopaths: are completely unable to feel remorse or guilt. In fact, research has shown that when shown violent movies, psychopaths actually feel calmer, as opposed to normal people who feel more agitated when thinking about violence. Think: Ted Bundy

4. Career choices

Sociopaths: have a hard time maintaining a job, which all comes back to how they were raised.

Psychopaths: tend to be highly intelligent and manage successful careers. They're master manipulators and can come across as very likeable. Psychopaths are able to mimic human emotions, even if they can't personally experience them..

5. Criminal tendencies

Sociopaths: tend to be highly unpredictable and impulsiveWhile violence is rare, it does happen

Psychopaths: meticulous in their planning, making sure it's very difficult to get caught. Even if they're not violent, psychopaths often commit white collar crime like fraud or money laundering.

6. Relationships

Sociopaths: can have relationships, as terrible as they may be. Since their behavior is learned and not innate, they can still feel just enough to empathize and understand people.

Psychopaths: form relationships based on what they can get out of them. If you find that your psychopath husband's friends are only useful to him to further his own needs, well ... that's a red flag.

7. Outward appearances

Sociopaths: likely to have kinks in his appearance. They might have uncontrollable tempers, and be easily irritated or very disorganized.

Psychopaths: smooth like butter. Remember Christian Bale in the movie American Psycho? It's just like that. They're charming, flattering, and well-spoken.

A sociopath is much more likely to have kinks in his appearance. They might have uncontrollable tempers, and be easily irritated or very disorganized.


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