6 Of The Worst Slut-Shames People Have ACTUALLY Said To Women

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Slut-Shaming Things People ACTUALLY Say
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Seriously? SERIOUSLY?

Contrary to what your vaguely racist high school classmate you blocked on Facebook and our current political climate may suggest, it's actually 2016. Unfortunately, many people haven't gotten that memo and still feel the need to bash women for their choices or experiences, which is completely unwarranted.

Here are some of the worst slut-shaming things people have said in this century, so you can learn what never to repeat.

1. "Since it happened before, you must have wanted it."

"A roommate walked in on me with a guy in a situation I didn't want to be in, but since I was dating him at the time she said she just assumed it was OK, and did nothing and left. Basically, I was being assaulted, but since I had sex with the guy before, [to her] it didn't count and it was OK." —Jessica

2. "You probably regret having sex."

"I was date raped in college by my then-boyfriend while studying abroad — roofies and all. Months later, when I finally had the courage to talk to mutual friends about it, a few girls I considered good friends told me I must have just regretted having sex because I knew it was a sin. By saying I didn't consent or wasn't capable of consenting, I was trying to make myself feel better. Others told me there was no way this guy, who was an ex by then, would never do something like that, so I must have been 'mistaken.'" —Emma

3. "Who would f*ck you?"

"It was online in response to a recent photo I posted on my Instagram that talked about slut-shaming and being able to wear what you want. The comment came from a teen girl who said, 'Nobody's thinking slut or whore, definitely not thinking [you're] sleeping around. Who would f*ck you?' The fact that this girl wrote that on my photo was baffling.

I was hurt to say the least and honestly surprised that I was so offended, especially since it was coming from a complete stranger online. It had a lot to do with her completely ignoring what the photo was about to insult me. I didn't retaliate because I realized that her problem was that she didn't have self-love; when you love yourself, you don't go out of your way to hurt other people's feelings." —Jewelz, 23

4. "If you weren’t with him, you’d bang me tonight."

"I was with my boyfriend at a party and a friend of a friend who I had met before was there. His first few comments I thought were strange, telling me how I used to be more fun when I was single. But his last comment offended me the most: 'If you weren't with your boyfriend, you'd f*ck me tonight.' 

At first I thought he was inappropriately joking around, but his demeanor made me feel incredibly uncomfortable and taken aback. After thinking about the situation, I became increasingly annoyed because of his terribly off assumptions. I didn't say anything back. I ended up walking away. I realized interacting with this person again both at the party and at future social events was never going to be a positive or worthwhile experience." —Kristen, 29

5. "What's with you and your feminist bullsh*t?"

"The worst comment I received was by text message. It wasn't full of insults, but I found it very insidious and dangerous. It came from a guy I rejected. Three guys were running after me at that time and I committed to dating one, so I refused [the first guy's] date offer. He sent me: 'You with your feminist bullsh*t. Play the free girl that can do whatever she wants, but this is wrong.'

Basically, I was slut-shamed for having sex with my boyfriend and not with him. He harassed me on Facebook, trying to shut me down every time I dared to express an opinion. He was always trying to 'put me back to my place.' It made me feel angry at first. I even started to question my integrity. But then it appeared clear to me that I don't have to feel 'bitchy' for saying no to a guy. It's my absolute right." —Benedicte, 21

6. "You're going to get yourself in trouble."

"A friend of mine and I had an altercation, and she went around telling people I was a whore because I had slept with a couple of guys. The best part was she was telling people I was the kind of girl who was going to 'get myself into trouble.' By what? Enjoying myself?" —Rose, 27

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