Listen. We're human.
I've received such wonderful feedback from my article, "3-Year-Olds Are Assholes," but I want to address the issues of profanity used in the piece.
Let me start by saying: Of course it's not acceptable to use profanity when describing your children. However, as parents, we're human. We may think our children our assholes in our heads. Heck, we may need to step out of the room to take a breather from an intense negotiation with our toddler because we just need a break.
Parenting is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. Anyone who claims otherwise is a liar or in denial. Straight up.
It's OK to feel frustrated with your children. It's OK to be angry at not being able to control a situation. We're deeply flawed creatures — and a part of being flawed is recognizing we may have angry thoughts related to our children when we're having a bad parenting day.
We have to forgive ourselves as parents. Forgive the fact that you may not want to look at your child after they threw your cell phone in the toilet. (By the way, that's a real life example; my daughter actually threw my iPhone into the crapper.)
If you have a problem with me using the term "assh*les," in describing my kids, I encourage you to take a look at the bigger picture. I want you to understand that it is OK to both love and feel incredibly exasperated by your children at the same time.
Feel free to substitute the word "assh*le" for something that makes you more comfortable. But please, don't shame me for using that word in my mind. Allow me to use that as my own personal catharsis so I'm able to be a great mother to my children.
Now go give your little assh*les a big hug.
This article was originally published at The Huffington Post. Reprinted with permission from the author.