The Smartest Thing A Woman Can Learn Is To Never Need A Man

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The Smartest Thing A Woman Can Learn Is To Never Need A Man

Independence is the greatest gift you can only give to yourself.

If you're looking to your relationship to make you happy, you're doing it wrong. Backwards, in fact.

The ultimate goal of the ideal relationship is to have someone you love so much that you want to give all your happiness to them, not siphon theirs. 

That's why it's important to learn to never need another person to be happy. You have to discover how to generate your own happiness so you can share it with others. Easier said than done, I know, but it's the one true difference between happy and unhappy relationships.

When you need someone else just to be happy, it means that you're leeching your happiness from them and not providing your own. And a one-sided relationship is doomed to failure.

We all know people who haven't learned this lesson. They're the serial monogamists who bounce from relationship to relationship, draining the other person like a happiness vampire, until they eventually run dry and have to move onto the next.

Learning to never need a man, learning to be independent, means to transition from being a taker to a giver in a relationship. Relationships thrive when both people are givers, as opposed to just one.

Independence isn't just important for relationships; it's important to learn how to produce your own happiness because you won't always have someone else to do it for you.

Serial monogamists in the example above are quick to jump into another relationship because they're miserable alone.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “In order to love someone else, you have to love yourself first?” This is exactly what that saying means. So, never learning how to be independent means you're unhappy when you're single, and your relationships have no shot at succeeding.

Yeah, I'd say that's a pretty important lesson to learn.


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