Two Exes Relive Their Break Up — And It's Heartbreaking To Watch
All the feels.
Imagine sitting face-to-face with your ex and reliving a breakup, whether you broke up two, five, or 10 years ago.
No matter the reason for your breakup, old feelings of resentment, anger, and reflection cross your mind. (And the awkwardness — don't forget that.)
That's exactly what exes Ali and Andrew did when The And Project reunited the two in 2015, allowing them to ask each other the toughest questions. The exes were a couple for seven years and were brought back together almost two years after their breakup.
For the first question, Ali asked Andrew, "Why did you cheat on me so many times?" And by the end of his answer, the raw emotion from these two was completely gut-wrenching.
You can see how much they loved each other, and how, even though years have passed, the wounds from the relationship are still painful.
In the second part of the story, they really got down to what went wrong in their relationship, and debated if there was ever a chance they could get back together. Of course, it would be weird, which they both agreed on.
But they wanted to remain friends. He said he missed her, which was why he wanted a friendship. However, there was just no room for romance anymore in their relationship.
They asked each other who was at fault for the relationship ending. Andrew admitted that he was the one responsible because he thought he was the one who made the most mistakes. Ali, on the other hand, thought it was because she kissed someone else, but it was the last thing that happened before they broke up.
She always gave him another chance and he didn't believe it was fair that he didn't give her one, even though she had given him so many chances to try again.
In a Facebook post from Andrew after their video went viral, he said:
"I love this project because it forces couples to ask the uncomfortable and intimate questions that we rarely want to answer. Ali and I did this a year ago, two years post-breakup, which would logically give us more reason to be honest since there's nothing to lose.
On the contrary, there's still everything to lose, because, beyond the failures and successes of our dating life, there's still the person that I cared for immeasurably.
It took two years to find the ability to talk this openly, and there was a sense that any answer could jeopardize our friendship. In the end, we formed a greater level of understanding, and I found that the hardest questions required us to remember the moments we treasure.
I regret the pain that I caused her, despite when we admit that in going through it, we are informed how to be better in the future — either for each other or the next love.
I'm inspired by the great couples of this world that serve each other with respect, loyalty, support, and understanding, and if there is one thing I take from my relationship with Ali, it's that she embodied all those characteristics like she invented them."
Whether or not you've talked to your ex since you broke up, we've all learned important lessons from our past relationships. And those lessons continue to help us grow in our new relationships, and in life.
Editor's Note: This article was originally posted in September 2015 and was updated with the latest information.
Samantha Maffucci is an editor for YourTango who writes trending news and entertainment pieces, and covers zodiac, relationships, and lifestyle topics.