Why is it that girls are always responsible for any kind of sexual conduct, and is shamed for having a natural, normal sexual curiosity? Not only is there a double standard for boys and girls; the responsibility placed solely on girls is enormous.
Girls must be careful not to dress in any way that might be interpreted as provocative, and she must rebuff any kind of sexual overture. If a boy follows his natural instincts, well, he can't help it — he was driven to it because of the girl.
I'd like to believe that these old-fashioned ideas are in the past, but then something happens, and I realize we haven't progressed at all.
In Melbourne, Australia, a youth group called Epic Youth, a branch of the Pentecostal CityLife megachurch, handed out booklets entitled "Science and Facts" as part of a sex education class to students at Fairhills High School, according to Daily Mail.
Seems tame enough, until you find out the message in the booklet. One passage reads, "Having multiple sex partners is almost like tape that loses its stickiness after being applied and removed multiple times. So the more you have, the harder it is to bond to the next."
The booklet warns that too many relationships could break "this special chemical bond and harm a woman's capacity form future relationships."
Besides comparing multiple sex partners to un-sticky tape, the booklet also said, "Additionally, when two people touch each other, even on the hand, 'oxytocin' is released and binds together in the brain. Women produce more of this chemical than guys, and it increases her desire to be touched by the same guy whom she was with.
Sex only makes this bond stronger. Have you ever wondered why girls are needier than guys in a relationship and always want to be close? This chemical is the reason."
Oxytocin is a hormone that's released in large amounts during childbirth to help with contractions, to encourage lactation, and to help with mother- and child-bonding. Oxytocin also helps with chronic pain, and is released during sexual intimacy. It does bind people together — but it takes much more than a touch of the hand.
Seems like this youth group really cares about women staying pure.
Just like this gem: "Is a hug harmless? Here's a warning for girls: If a woman becomes physically close and hugs a guy for 20 seconds, it will trigger the bonding process, creating a greater desire to be near him. Then, if the guy wants to take the relationship further it will become harder for her to say no."
Yes, because it's always the woman's fault for creating sexual desire in men. Always.
Fortunately, the church was forced to apologize. CityLife's executive minister, Peter Leigh said, "We apologize and agree that this material should not have been handed out to students. We accept responsibility and a full review of the program and material is underway."
That's great, but there's still two things wrong here: the church was forced to apologize, and the booklets definitely shouldn't be handed out to anyone.
The mindset that girls are the only ones responsible for what happens in a relationship, or that their hormones make them lose control, is not only unfair and sexist — it's disgusting.
Instead of "Science and Facts," the pamphlet should have been called "Sexist Lies and Crap."