Let's Be Honest. Should Marriage Really Be Your End Goal? [VIDEO]


The answer may surprise you.


Nowadays, it's hard to go on a date without being weighed down by expectations. When you add the "marriage question" into the mix, the pressure multiplies by tenfold.

Does this sound familiar?  You met the "perfect" guy online who seems to have it all.  Not only does he share your same hobbies, his values and interests align directly with your own.

Now, can you picture yourself marrying this man?

If your reaction to that question was "It's way too soon to know" or "I'm not worried about that yet", we've got a truth bomb for you. Whether you've consciously thought about marriage or not, it IS seen as an end goal for some people. And we get it.

When you get into a relationship with someone who doesn't make his intentions known—and has never clearly defined his wants or needs—you take on a lot of risks. Sometimes, it doesn't matter how hard you try to make things work; that question will hang over everything you do.

We've all been in this situation before and yet the answer still escapes us.

So we ask you this: Should you get into a relationship with the hopes that it will lead to marriage?

Dating expert Julie Ferman completely hits the mark when she says that the answer starts with YOU. She says that, "Culturally, in our world, it's kind of expected that we should get married. It's expected that we should have children. Not everybody wants to do that!"

Julie is right. Don't base your goals on what society tells you. After all, it's your love life. How can you expect yourself to find the one when you're not certain exactly what it is you're looking for?

Keeping a mental tab on whether your date checks off in the marriage department only puts unnecessary pressure on you, and will only hurt you in the end.

According to Pew Research Center, "53% of internet users [feel that] online dating allows people to find a better match for themselves because they can get to know a lot more people." 

That means that more than half of the participants believe that it's possible to find genuine love online. This further proves that you should just let things happen naturally. 

So here's a challenge for you. Forget about those romance novels and every Hollywood film you've ever seen. If you start trusting your instincts, everything will fall into place.


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