8 Reasons Your Divorce Isn’t REALLY Over Until You Sell The Ring

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You're holding on to the ring for the WRONG reasons.

No matter how hard it feels or how much it hurts, you can come out on the other side of divorce feeling better than ever. As cliché as it sounds, the relationship ended for a reason. Maybe you're both different than you were. Maybe it's harder to find love in your daily routine. Maybe it's simply not identifiable.

But you CAN identify this: the ring. Do you put it away in a drawer? Still wear it? Or — bigger question — do you sell it?

What's the protocol here? Bottom line: if the ring is a family heirloom, you should return it. That's just the right thing to do. But if he bought it for you—a new ring given to you with complete freedom—and doesn't want it back now that the relationship is over, what do you do? Is it WRONG to sell it?

It might feel weird and like it's not your place, but all signs point to yes. Yes you should sell the ring. Here are eight reasons why:

1. It's a symbol of an end. The relationship is over, and that ring is a symbol of a promise that neither of you are fulfilling. So why keep it around?

2. Divorce is expensive (and you need the extra cash). Whether you’re now a single mom or you’re simply on your own for the first time in years, looking for a new place to start over is stressful both emotionally and financially. Because that divorce you both want? It’s EXPENSIVE! Sell the ring somewhere they’ll take care of you. A trusted place like WP Diamonds is a good option. You’ll thank us later.

3. You need closure. How can you move on while you're clinging to a major token of your last relationship? If you still have the ring, that relationship isn’t completely finished yet. So get rid of it, get some closure and more on to new experiences in your life.

4. The diamond is JUST an object. You’ve created so much emotional significance around this object that you’re questioning whether it would be right to sell it. But let’s be real: the marriage is over. And that’s what matters. So the ring (ahem, object) doesn’t have power anymore.

5. The grudge is holding you back. Maybe he dumped you without a clear reason. Maybe he became someone you didn't agree to marry. Maybe you both made this decision together. By selling the ring, you’ll finally let all the toxic resentment go.

6. It’s time to do something for YOU. Why are you holding on to a ring that — as we’ve now established — means nothing when you can sell it and use the money to treat YOURSELF. You deserve it! Want a suggestion? Buy a new piece of jewelry that symbolizes this next chapter in your life, and wear it with pride.

7. You're clinging to false security. The ring isn't a symbol of the life you could've had — it's an anchor to your past life. Making the decision to sell it is saying, "This is over. I mourned us, and I'm not going to wait around any more."

8. Throwing it away just isn’t enough. Tossing that ring into the ocean à la the old lady in Titanic might feel great in the moment, but guess what? It doesn’t do anything for anyone at the bottom of the freaking ocean! Throw something else with a lot of emotional significance overboard.

Think of selling your ring as a fresh start, and let it be the move that sets you free from your past — you've got this!


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