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Why Obsessing Over Your Ex Isn’t Doing You Any Favors [VIDEO]


You dated. You broke up with him. Move on!

We've all had that one moment where we can't help reminiscing over our ex. Even though we know that nothing good can come out of it, we still spend so much time rehashing the past; it goes without saying that this makes it super hard to get over your breakup.

But the real question is why would you want to relive the same relationship over and over—especially if it ended for a reason?

You dated. You broke up with him. Move on!

Let's be real. Author Charles Orlando definitely has a point when he mentions the fact that constantly thinking about your ex or finding ways to talk to him most likely means you're probably not over your ex. If you think about it, you're basically opening your relationship to the same mistakes that made you want to leave in the first place!

If you really want to find love again, you need to start asking yourself some serious questions.

1. Are you really ready to move on?

2. Would you ever consider taking your ex back? If the answer is no, why are you so stuck in the past?

This new chapter is waiting for you so stop reading the old one and move on. It isn't as hard as it may seem; in fact, we're sure you'll find that Charles Orlando's advice in the video is pretty spot on.


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