Newsflash: Loving someone doesn't mean that you have to lose yourself along the way.
Don't get us wrong. There's nothing more beautiful than falling in love with someone who you wouldn't mind spending the rest of your life with. But sometimes. we let ourselves get pulled into the lull of being in love that we lose sense of the person we were before becoming a couple. Don't believe us? Think about this way. Have you ever known a couple who, even though they were great on paper, seemed a little off because of how well they got along? Suddenly, they have the same likes and dislikes and everything that once made them different goes flying out the window.
According to Dr. Karin Anderson, that right there is one of the biggest signs that you're slowly losing yourself in your relationship. This should go without saying but valuing your relationship more than yourself will only end in heartache. Even though it may sound crazy, it seriously is possible to lose touch of your identity.
So ask yourself these questions:
1. Have you ever stopped for a second to think about what it is that you want? Do you really know who you are?
2. Did your interests change the minute you got into a relationship?
3. Do you constantly ignore your friends to hang out with your guy even though you see him everyday?
Some women haven't found themselves and they've been in relationships since middle school so they never carved out an independent life. Sometimes, we are so drawn into our relationships that it's hard for us to notice all of the changes that are happening all at once. But that's the problem. Healthy relationships consist of two people who are comfortable enough in their love that they can respect their differences. At the end of the day, you can't really love someone if you don't know who they are.