Yes, You Should Always Have Sex With Your Husband When He Wants It

Every night in households across America, as children sleep peacefully in their beds and husbands (usually) lounge on the couch with a bag of chips and watch television, women are tirelessly working.

There are clothes to be ironed, next-day lunches to be made, lists to be written, and doors to be locked.

Some men may command these roles, but more often than not, the maternal figure is tending to these responsibilities.

As the man moves from the couch to the bed and waits on his lovely lady to join him, she still isn't done.

For some women, night cream has to be applied, chin hairs need to be plucked, and ashy knees and elbows need to be lotioned.

Finally, after checking on the children and the locked doors yet again, the woman slips into her comfortable bed and heaves a collective sigh of relief because no one needs anything else from her today.

She can finally soak in the silence of the house and rest.

But before she's even closed her eyes, he's turned onto his side to face her.

She knows what he wants, what he needs (yes, I said needs). Although exhausted and covered in various creams and lotions, she feels like she's the one who is responsible in the marriage for meeting his needs.

I'm sure I've already outraged women everywhere with those few opening paragraphs.

I know what you are saying: "This isn't 1950! Women aren't submissive pieces of flesh whose only purpose is to service a man! She doesn't have to do ANYTHING before going to sleep! He has a hand!"

Ladies, I hear you. Please take a moment to calmly breathe, take another sip of your coffee/wine and read on before you congregate on my front lawn with picketing signs.

I recently wrote an article called "5 Major Wife Mistakes I Make (And You Probably Do, Too)," and one of my faults is not making time for my husband in the sexual department.

I received many positive comments and emails regarding the article, but it made some women incredibly angry that I had the audacity to insinuate that a woman should put her husband's desires before her own.

Because, apparently, selfishness is a horrible thing unless we are talking about sex.

So, should you have sex with your husband when you don't want to? Sex isn't solely about you.

Let that sink in. If you have a good man (as I do) who values, loves, respects and honors you in every way, then there is absolutely nothing wrong in giving him what only you can offer — even if you'd rather sleep, watch television, pin recipes or play Candy Crush.

Simply, it's called putting other's needs before your own, and yes, I use the term "needs" because that's exactly what they are.

Sex is a real physical need for men that isn't as strong for most women. It's not just my opinion.

It's science, according to research discussed in Psychology Today.

Women want sex based on hormones that fluctuate due to our reproductive cycle, our emotions and the hypothalamus in our delicate female brains. Many of us just don't need sex in the same way that our men do.

This doesn't mean we are completely lacking a libido or that sex isn't a wonderful and mandatory part of our lives.

It simply means that we don’t have as much testosterone as men (but just enough to trigger the growth of that chin hair).

I didn't fully understand this until I heard the following comparison:

When I was breastfeeding, I felt annoying pain and discomfort when the milk built up. I had to release it before I turned into the Hulk and went on a rampage. This need for release is quite similar to the need that a man feels when he is chocked full of semen. With sex, we don't have a buildup that demands release. Men certainly do.

Again, it's not just some crazy submissive opinion. It's science (that has been backed up by Snopes.com).

I received some comments on my article from women who stated that they shouldn't be expected to service their men multiple times a day just because they "need" sex, and to that I say: you are absolutely correct.

Any man who misuses his "need" and demands that his partner roll over at his every command isn't really a man but rather an egotistical sex-crazed maniac that can take his needy ass to the bathroom and service himself.

As for the men who misuse their sexual "need" by requesting to ravish you while you suffer from a migraine or the flu, well, they aren’t good men, either.

Yes, You Should Always Have Sex With Your Husband When He Wants It

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