Letting the anger take control can only hurt you in the end.
After being together for so long, it’s pretty much a given that we're going to butt heads with our partners. But sometimes, when it's in the heat of the moment, we can say things that are really hurtful. Sometimes, trying to figure out what to say or how to react can make us feel even more overwhelmed. There's no question that having to deal with the anxiety that comes with the anger can be pretty hard. Thinking about the way that we react made us wonder about the different ways that anger affects our relationship (and what we can do to stop it). In general, is constantly fighting healthy?
When YourTango Founder/CEO Andrea Miller, Anthropologist and Human Behavior Researcher Helen Fisher, Licensed Clinical Social Worker Carole Spivack, Psychologist Barbara Holstein and Founder of DateLikeaGrownup.com Bobbi Palmer talk about the differences between how men and women handle their anger, we couldn't agree more. Based on her research, Helen Fisher found that the reason why men seem to shut down when they get upset is because of biology. As women, we tend to be more emotionally expressive but don't go over the edge in the same way that they do. Regardless of what gender you are, giving that anger control can only cause damage to both your relationship and your health. Instead of getting angry, we need to take a second to figure out why we're really angry and then talk it out. In the end, is fighting really worth it?