Over-Analyze This: What Guys Really Think ... Of Texting With You


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Stop with the emojis, don't ask too many questions & more things we learned from guys about texting.

A recent Match.com survey on texting (and sexting!) found that the battle of the sexes might finally have found some common ground: Texting. Turns out 59 percent of guys and girls don't want to be inundated with texts before they get a chance to reply — and when it comes to the work day, less is definitely more. Plus, 45 percent of dudes don't want to be bothered with a message when they’re on the clock but women, notorious for multitasking, seem to balance the workday and a steamy conversation just fine.

But that aside, what do guys really think about having full-on conversations without ever really saying a word? Is bearing your virtual soul through the tips of your fingers and into a text a burden dudes bare — or the best way to get to know a girl?


We asked the men in our lives to spill on what they love, hate and really don't understand when it comes to texting.

"Please, For The Love Of God, Stop With The Emjois."
Guys might be visual, but that doesn’t mean they want to stare at text after text of baby penguins and bears. Sirius, 28, revealed that when it comes to text etiquette, he can’t stand a girl that’s too expressive.

"Too many emojis just kill a conversation — and definitely my interest," he says. "It's hard enough trying to interpret what a girl is saying — let alone when she’s using pigs and cacti and Pink high heels in a message to me. Like, what the f*ck does that mean?"

Though Joe, 31, agrees with the unwritten-Emjoi-limit, he says that it's more the waiting game that really turns him off. "When a girl takes forever to respond to a text it makes it really complicated to tell if she’s into me or just trying to be nice by responding — or if she’s playing hard to get." He adds, "Sometimes, I’ve honestly thought that maybe a girl already had a boyfriend because it took her hours to respond to the messages I was sending her. I kept picturing her running into a bathroom to hide and check her phone.” And since catfish are everywhere, Joe’s hesitations make sense — and they’re probably more common than he (or anyone) expects.

"Being Asked Too Many Questions Just Absolutely Drives Me Insane."
For Ryan, 27, it's the 21 Questions game. "For starters, this isn’t an interrogation. It’s texting. I’m not sure what I’m doing later – or what I’m doing on Sunday morning for brunch. Or hell, if I plan on taking any summer trips. I’ll know when I get there.” Forrest, 25, agrees. “I hate the texts where a girl is like ‘Hey, what are you doing?’ One minute goes by… ‘Are you busy? Should I text you back later? Maybe you can just call me when you’re free? I’m heading to the East Village, any chance you want to meet up?’ It’s like, whoa, calm down, I haven’t even had a chance to respond yet.”

"Make Sure You Know Who You're Texting."
Pet peeves guys can live with — like too many smiley faces or even the occasional run-on text. But these things, they said, they weren't willing to compromise on.

Tommy, 29, revealed that a girl he was seeing once sent a text to him intended for another guy. "If she sent me a text she meant to send another guy, I'm just not interested in you anymore," he says. "I understand people make mistakes — and yeah, it's happened to me before so I'm a little jaded — but like, you see my name right there in the message. You should know the person you’re responding to. At least have enough respect for that."

Stop With The Slang.
Ben, 26, totes has no room in his vocab or his life for abbrevs. "The following words: Whatevs, Totes, Appropro, Lmfao, etc. I just can’t handle it. Spell it out. Chances are you have an iPhone and once you start typing the word it will finish it for you."

In a similar vein, Josiah, 31 says, "It's a big turn-off when a girl tries to be more street or thug than she really is." Keep Reading ...

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