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How To Know When It's Finally Time To Consider Divorce

Not all marriages are meant to last a lifetime.

Alright, ladies, we can admit that most of us have dreamed of getting married and living happily ever since we were kids.

But it's almost as if once our dream wedding ended, reality took center stage. Being married isn't as easy as people often make it seem. It doesn't matter how long you've been together; there is always going to be a time where you guys don't see eye to eye and end up getting into an argument because of it.

It just isn't as pretty as expected.

So what happens when you find yourself fantasizing about getting a divorce instead of sticking it out?

In the YourTango Experts video above, divorce coaching duo, Kimberly Mishkin and Liza Caldwell of SAS — Support And Solutions For Women, talk about the different steps to take before you decide to get a divorce.

Their advice is brilliant, and we couldn't agree more. Getting a divorce is a really big (not to mention life changing) decision. That's why it's so important to really think things through, and perhaps seek out couples counseling.

Here are a few suggestions to help you know when your marriage is over:

1. Make a list of pros and cons to your relationship.

It's hard to see through the pain, sometimes, when you're in a rough patch in your marriage. But writing a list can help you remember what you like and love about your spouse

2. Get objective advice. 

Don't go to your friend who already hates your spouse, and don't go to your mom who thinks divorce is the end of the world. You might want to hire a divorce coach or seek out a therapist or other support person if you worry your friends and family can't be objective. 

Sometimes, talking to your husband about everything that has been bothering you can put you both on the same page.

Even if sitting down and getting to the bottom of what's really hurting you doesn't change your mind, it doesn't mean that you're a bad person.

At the end of the day, you have to think about your happiness

For more on how you'll know when your marriage is over, and whether it's time to get a divorce, watch the video above or reach out to SAS for Women. Kim and Liza are here to help! 

Expert advice

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