It's so hard to believe another year has passed as we say farewell to 2013 and welcome 2014. In the spirit of New Year's I wanted to offer some helpful relationship resolutions for singles, which will help you find, meet, attract and keep that special someone. Regardless of your current relationship status it's important to know you have the power to change your circumstances with positive thinking, affirmative action and a belief in yourself. Anything is possible in both life and love with the right attitude and thinking. So let's get started and remember, your results are typically measured by your efforts. When it comes to love it's best not leave it to luck!
1. Be kind to yourself .
Relationship-resolutionThis seems like a simple and natural instruction but is one of the most difficult things many of you struggle with. You can be so hard on yourself and overly critical. Do not allow the negative voice in your head to take over your mental space, when you doubt yourself. Stop beating yourself up for things not happening for you when it comes to relationships. Focus on your strengths and work on the areas in your life you need to improve on. How can you be kind to others when you don't give yourself enough credit? You ROCK! So give yourself a high-five and SMILE when you look in the mirror.
2. Write down your relationship goals.
My GPS is practically my new best friend. Without directions and a road map, trust me, I would never get to where I wanted to go. Directions are not my strong point. As with relationship resolutions, you need a relationship goal. What are your relationship goals? Are you looking to casually date? Make new friends? Find your soul mate or get married and have babies?
3. Create a list of values and desired character traits in your ideal partner.
Now that you know what kind of relationship you are looking for the next step is to determine the type of person you are looking for, when it comes to relationship compatibility. In many of the matchmaking organizations I've worked with, they all focus on compatibility in key areas such as sexual preferences, religion, politics, family values and work ethic. Important compatibility is not based on "common interests" and liking the same sports and taste in music. Understanding your partners love language and having compatible moral values will lead to more successful long term relationships.
4. Meet 1-2 new potential relationship candidates every week (minimum).
Applying simple mathematics to your dating life will greatly increase your odds to relationship success. The more opportunities you create for yourself, the greater the likelihood you will meet someone special. You won't know what you like, who you like or how to act if you don't get enough practice. Practice doesn't always make perfect, but practice definitely makes sense. How do you improve on your dating skills if you never get to apply them? How will you know what you find attractive in a partner if you only have one point of reference? It's simple. The more people you meet, the more chances you have to meeting the right one.
5. Let go and release your negative beliefs about relationships.
I know the phrase all too well. Once bitten, twice shy. That might be true, but it doesn't have to be your reality. I'm a strong believer in the laws of attraction. Let go of past beliefs about what you might think "all men" or "all women" are like.