Perfect weddings, perfect couples, perfect babies? Here's why it may be time for a break.
Think about it: In your newsfeed, you face an endless stream of happy couples in love. And when you’re recovering from a devastating breakup, the last thing you want is to be bombarded with smiling couples making kissy faces, gushing statuses about date nights and baby's firsts and wedding planning. This is the kind of cheery optimism that makes you stop and quietly wonder to yourself, "Geez, am I behind everyone else?"
When I was in college, it seemed like everyone I knew was getting "OMG #engaged!!!" Cue the countdown apps to "the big day" and rants about the typography on the invitations not being perfectly right, gushing about picking out bridesmaid dresses, and Instagram photos with the caption "Should I pick Badgley Mishka or Jimmy Choo for my bridal shoes? Help me pick, girls! :)". Ughhh.
But even more unbearable and unavoidable is an oversharer's worst weapon — tagging. I knew one lucky bride-to-be who tagged every invited wedding guest whenever an announcement was made about her upcoming nuptials. (Needless to say, I defriended her faster than you can say "I do".)
Zoe Strimpel would agree. She's the author of Man Diet: One Woman's Quest to End Bad Romance and recently spoke out against Facebook at a lecture. "What [Facebook] does is it enhances the sense that your life is lacking," she said to The Daily Mail, "and specifically, when you are single, you focus in on all those pictures of perfect weddings, perfect babies, perfect couples."
This isn't exactly a revolutionary concept. It's the ultimate and oft-written about ironic twist to Facebook: our online social networks disconnect us from our in-person social networks. And what we see online is not always reality.
Think about it this way: Your friends who post that cutesy (read: annoying) couple selfies from every date night? They're never going to take a snapshot of their biggest fights, their issues or insecurities. So what you see on their wall isn't an honest glimpse into their relationship anyway.
Sometimes, ironically, disconnecting from our social networks can be just what we need to get reconnected again. So if you're single, would it be so bad to disconnect from your social network for a little while? When you're wrapped up in everyone else's love lives, it doesn't really give you room to enjoy your own.
And being single is the perfect excuse to get reacquainted with yourself — which you should do regardless of your current "relationship status."
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