"Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions." -Deepak Chopra
My 15-year-old daughter told me that a friend was planning to try to get his first kiss when the fireworks went off on the fourth of July. Talk about a romantic beginning. But after that romantic beginning, how do you keep intimacy vibrant long after the fireworks fade away?
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I offer these five foolproof tips to spark reliable and continuously improving pleasure in your relationship.
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1. Let your nose lead you to desire
The most famous lovers of all time have always known that our most powerful access to sexual desire is through their sense of smell. Scent is experienced by the olfactory and registered in the limbic part of the brain — where memory, emotion and sexuality are waiting to be stirred. Move towards a kiss by paying attention to smell and enhance the experience by using scented products that turn you on. Arousal is a switch in your brain, not your genitals — and smell is the control dial!
2. Fantasy is your friend
It can be sexy to explore private fantasies, enjoy erotic images, make an intimate video together or explore various roles and characters in the bedroom. Healthy sexuality lets us briefly abandon our normal reasoning self for so the body’s cravings can lead the mind. Having the freedom to be your sexual self and delve into the crazy fantasies that live far outside the margins of your daily life takes a visceral sense of safety with yourself and your relationship. The bigger the leap, the greater the risk; but if you take no leap, then don’t expect to see those fireworks last. Passionate fantastical sex is inseparable from the risk and mystery that creates it. This is why the illicit affair is always so steamy. The sex might not even be that good, but add a dose of the forbidden and suddenly it is full of flame. Achieving orgasm has so much to do with your ability to let go and experience the odd and fascinating part of being a sexual human. Keep Reading ...