Lessons in love from the fiercely feminist and feminine pilot ahead of her time.
It was 76 ago today that Amelia Earhart, then 39, disappeared somewhere over the Pacific Ocean. While most of us know she was a female pilot who set record after record, not everyone is aware of just how fiercely feminist, feminine and independent she truly was. So independent, in fact, that when she lectured at colleges she was very adamant that women pursue education and degrees before settling down with a marriage. She saw marriage as a cage, granted an"attractive" one, but still a cage nonetheless.
From the beginning, Earhart wasn't like other girls. Her mother didn't believe in molding her and her sister, "Pidge," into "nice little girls," and because of this, the two dressed and played like boys. It was in those early days that Earhart's sense of adventure was fostered, and her fearlessness to take flight was inevitable. She'd eventually get there, in men's boxer shorts no less, in 1918 after attending a flying exhibit in Canada where she felt the plane that dove at her "said something" to her. Two years later she would take her first flying lesson, and her true love would be realized; two years after that she'd set her first record by being the first female pilot to fly 1400 feet.
Earhart was ahead of her time in many ways. In addition to being a woman who wanted to take on the world, risk everything and sport men's underwear when she was flying, she also put relationships with men second. It was the 1920's, and although it was the flapper generation, where women were coming into their own and rebelling against the constraints of the past, still, the very notion of a woman not wanting to marry was an odd one. Even flappers wanted to find a steady fella with whom to grow old.
There appears to have been two major men in Earhart's life: the first being Sam Chapman to whom she was engaged for six years until she called it off in 1928, and George P. Putman. Putman proposed to Earhart six times before she finally accepted. Unlike many relationships of the time, she regarded hers to be one of equal partnership, and it was important to her that they were both "breadwinners," so as avoid any imbalance or unnecessary dependence on each other. She also kept her maiden name, something that was absolutely unheard of in 1930's America.
You must know again my reluctance to marry, my feeling that I shatter thereby chances in work which means so much to me . . . . In our life together I shall not hold you to any medieval code of faithfulness to me, nor shall I consider myself bound to you similarly. . . . I may have to keep some place where I can go to be myself now and then, for I cannot guarantee to endure at all the confinements of even an attractive cage.
In just a few lines, Earhart's views on love, but yet extreme freedom within that love, are made clear. The woman had wings, both literally and metaphorically, and being trapped on the ground in the conventions of marriage would not do for her. She wanted far more, and succeeded in achieving that more. She wanted to live and love on her terms, and not have anyone, not even a husband, interfere with that. Keep Reading ...
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