How To Give Compliments That Encourage Intimacy

By YourTango

Complimenting Him in a Relationship
Find out how to compliment your man in a way that will bring him closer to you.

Everyone who's ever been in a relationship knows the power of a good compliment. Like Narcissus in the lake before us, we're more likely to love someone because of the reflection of ourselves we see mirrored in their eyes. Still, flattery can be tricky. Too little and it can make a man crave for intimacy elsewhere. Too much and it can make him a little too cocky. So what can you do?

We asked YourTango expert and dating expert Dina Colado for some advice on how to find that sweet spot that'll make you your man's sanctuary of self-esteem.


1. Don't lie

Flattery may get you everywhere, but false flattery will take you to places you don't want to go. Complimenting men on things that you don't like will just reinforce bad behavior and have him doing it over and over again. However, don't be too harsh in your criticism. Colado explains, "Nothing will make a man jump out of bed faster than saying in a nasty voice, 'Don't do that, do this!" Instead, use positive language like "It turns me on when you tease me with your breath. I know your lips are close to me and it drives me crazy." Focus on what you he can do better, not on what he's doing wrong. And be gentle! You want to caress his ego, not kill it. Keep reading...


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