You've got the magic touch so it's time you started using it.
Everyone always claims that the key to having mind blowing sex is the elusive G-spot. But if you ask us, there are more creative ways to rev things up between-the-sheets.
Nowadays, we place so much emphasis on physically stimulating your partner down there. Focusing on one area, when there are so many other erogenous zones that you can explore, will leave her feeling unsatisfied.
So if you want the ultimate payoff, try using your five senses.
It may sound crazy at first but it’s actually super simple! If there’s one thing that we can all agree on, it’s that a little foreplay can go a long way to set the mood. Sex therapist and author Esther Perel raises excellent points on how you can engage your partner on every level.
At 0:11, she even gives us the secret to having a more fulfilling sex life. She says “ So much of sex these days is genitally focused. As if you go to the right spot, [it'll be] exciting [there]. But imagine that for women the best aphrodisiacs are words and Isebella Illiendez says, 'G-spot is between the ears.'"
We couldn’t agree more! It’s a fact that men and women experience sexual arousal differently. In fact, according to Psychology Today, a woman's physical arousal doesn't always correlate with how turned on she is.
After an in depth analysis on female genital responses, sex researchers found that "While men may get turned on by feeling themselves get erect, women do not. However, [studies have found that] even when women received feedback about their level of vaginal engorgement, correlations (between genital and subjective arousal) were low and statistically nonsignificant."
This just proves that it’s going to take a little more than finding her G-spot to keep her sexually satisfied. Do yourself a favor. Stop spending all of your time in one area. Let your senses do the exploring.
You’ll definitely turn your partner on by showing off your expertise. So if you’re really serious about reigniting the sparks in the bedroom, watch this video on replay and head over to Durex for more OMG foreplay ideas.
You may think you're not doing any major damage by simply sitting in a chair all day at work, but spending too much time in a chair can shorten the muscles of the pelvic floor. What this means, in regards to orgasms, is that the tightness of these muscles can stand in the way of climaxing. You should always make it a point to get up and do stretches throughout the day.
It seems pretty unfair that a medicine necessary to keep us on an even keel would play a part in how we orgasm, but it does. Unfortunately anti-depressants can mess up what's going on in the pleasure department of the brain making it extremely hard, if not impossible, for both men and women to climax. Luckily for women, direct clitoral stimulation can help in that area. If not, then you should talk to your doctor about trying another brand of anti-depressants.
When you have a dozen things on your itinerary and not enough time in the day to do them all, the least of your concerns is having an orgasm during sex. In fact, sex itself, can feel like a chore. Taking time to put your stresses on hold, being in the moment, and reaching for a glass of wine can help you unwind and maybe even achieve orgasm.
The reason high heels make us feel sexy is because the arch of the shoe sort of mimics the way the pelvic floor moves and contractions close to orgasm. So weird, right? But yet, it's true. Explains Dr. Eden Fromberg of SoHo OBGYN, "An orgasm is usually like going from zero to 60. If you’re already at 55 [from wearing heels], you're not going to have a full experience." All those flats in your closet are looking pretty good right now, huh?
As much as I would love to say that the key to more orgasms is several martinis, alcohol can actually be the kiss of death when it comes to having an orgasm. However, drinking water and other hydrating fluids helps orgasms, because our bodies need water and work more properly with water in them. Yes, this mean you really should finally kick your DC habit. Some even stand by the fact that a full bladder will make for an easier and more intense orgasm.
I'm not just talking about distractions from stress, but distractions that come with personal insecurities. If you're concerned about the way you look, smell, skills, or even the sometimes-bizarre noises that come with having sex, you're never going to be able to relax enough to have an orgasm. Men are very visual creatures; they want to see you in all your nakedness, and guess what? All vaginas smell! Get over your hang-ups and go with it. In the heat of the moment, your partner isn't going to care about your stretch marks, or even if you fart — you're human, and they are, too.
This has nothing to do with your technique in bed, but everything to do with how well you know your body and how it works. According to sexologist Betty Dodson, Ph.D., "The most important aspect for any woman wanting to become orgasmic is to explore her own body and discover what she likes, what feels good, and how to have orgasms alone before engaging in sex with a partner." No matter how long it takes, experimenting with your body and finding what gets you off is one of the best ways to finally have an orgasm.