Melissa Fritchle discusses figuring out how to improve things in the bedroom.
You can only use the "Not tonight, I'm tired" excuse for so long before he starts to notice that something's changed. Before you tried being intimate together, everything was coming up roses. Now that he wants to get a little closer to you, it's hard not freezing up after things escalate past foreplay. If you've ever been so overcome with nerves and anxiety that it stopped you from finding release with your boyfriend, you're not alone. We've all been there.
Sometimes — no matter how long you have been with someone — it's so much easier (and honestly, less scary) to enjoy yourself without having an audience around. Not being able to climax when your boyfriend's attention is completely focused on you is understandable. We all get a little stage fright. This doesn't mean that your sex life is less satisfying than others — You're just going to have to tough it out and tell him the truth.
Luckily, sex expert Melissa Fritchle talks about the best way to approach this fear with your partner; once you're totally open with how you feel, it can lead to having great sex (not to mention ridiculously hot orgasms). If you can only reach an orgasm through masturbation, working with your partner can help improve the intimacy between the two of you. Great communication and patience can go a long way to making mediocre sex into good sex and good sex into amazing sex.